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Posted by: SandrAruba, Thursday, July 21, 2011, 12:23am
First of all, let me apologize for troubling you guys with this, but I really don’t have anyone else I can “talk” to. My best friend is going through some mayor troubles herself, my mother can’t seem to remember what phone number I have. With her getting Alzheimer symptoms more and more I find it difficult to talk to her.

My husband is a dear and he supports me as much as he can, he is in Holland at the moment and  he’s a “just keep going type”. And that is precisely where the problem lies. I am exhausted and I think the last thing I should do is keep going. I’ve also been thinking what the source of that problem is. So the past few days, I’ve been doing some heavy thinking and I’ve been reading LF4YT. And I came upon this description of Type C behavior, common in A’s with high cortisol levels.

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“People who exhibit this behavior tend to repress their true anxieties while appearing confident and well-adjusted; erect emotional blockades to forming close relationships, often feel unworthy of love, tend to put more into a relationship than they get out of it, often give in to the wishes of others, while ignoring their own needs, feel a large amount of self-pity; and worry about small, inconsequential matter.“


That is a description of me, especially that last part “worrying”. It keeps me awake at night way more then I like to admit. And I’ve been exhibiting this behavior in different amounts for the past 8 years. As some of you know, I had my thyroid taken out in 2004 but all the troubles began two years before that. In 2005/2006 I divorced and it was not an easy divorce, but I kept going on. Giving up is not in my nature. In 2007 I was forced to move to Holland to go and work there (no work here on Aruba), and that Dutch climate is just not good for someone on thyroid medication. The swift changes in the temperature were terrible for me, apart from the fact that I fell down the stairs and hurt my shoulder, resulting in a frozen shoulder for 18 months. Meaning I hardly slept for 18 months due to the pain. But no matter what happened; I kept going… working hard, oftentimes a stress full job, with long hours. Putting my needs aside for everyone else.

Then finally beginning of this year I was offered a job back home in Aruba and I grabbed it with both hands. I’ve been back for a little more than two months and it’s great… if only I wasn’t so tired. It’s not my hormone levels, I don’t have a stressful job now, it a fine job that should give me energy at the end of the day to do other things still. And there are a lot of things that need to be done. I have boxes from the move that need to be unpacked, I want to paint the inside of the house (get the old color (from my ex) out of the way), The yard needs to be taken care of, and so many many more things that were left unattended in the 4 years I was in Holland.

And the 2 months I’ve been back, that’s what I have been doing, working… again, just keep on going, but I can’t anymore. I’m at the end of my energy rope. And I was thinking to myself, why do I keep pushing myself?? What does it matter if that box is unpacked today or tomorrow or next week. There is nothing in it that I need immediately. And the painting, I am not going anywhere, I’ll be here next week, next month, why do I need to do everything as soon as possible? Why do I constantly have to push myself so?? No wonder I am exhausted.

So I decided I am going to stop that. I am not going to sit around and do nothing, but I am going to spend more time on reading, listening to easy going music, take some time for my photography and if I feel like it, I will unpack one box. I am going to follow the fatigue protocol, I have the supplements and when I am finished with that, I will start on my weight loss program.  And I will follow the suggestions in the LR4YT book, like go to bed in time (this whole week I’ve been in bed before 11).

So no dieting (I am eating very compliant at this moment), I am going to try and get some meditation at the end of each day, or just sit in my yard and enjoy the singing of the birds, take in a little sun for my vitamin D production. I will take control back on my life. And if I feel like doing nothing, I will do nothing!

And by the time hubby comes back in September, he will find a new and improved wife. Maybe it’s a good thing he’s not here right now. Otherwise I would be spending my time on him instead of myself.

What do you guys think? Sounds like a good plan? Anyone have any suggestions? I'm open to everything, just as long as I don't feel so tired anymore.
Posted by: ruthiegirl, Thursday, July 21, 2011, 12:33am; Reply: 1
Sounds like a good plan to me!
Posted by: grey rabbit, Thursday, July 21, 2011, 12:36am; Reply: 2
You must take time for yourself! My ex thought I was lazy, but if I didn't have some down-time I would get sooooo stressed, I was starting to have chest pains (had my heart checked out and it was fine).

I get up very early in the morning and sit and sip my coffee and almond milk, I take about a half an hour before I even get dressed. I always make sure I get up early enough to do this otherwise it is a hard day.
Posted by: PCUK-Positive, Thursday, July 21, 2011, 12:58am; Reply: 3
two things, first it takes time to adjust to a new climate and location. temperature change takes a while for the body to adjust.

secondly how are you with taking iodine? I'm not an expert or anything but when i tested it recently it gave ne an immense boost. although it cause other problems in the rear so to speak lol

Although if i may be so bold as to suggest you do look at the dieting if it is necessary. weight is a issue to health - it is very easy to use any excuse (not saying you are, of course) to eat the wrong foods. Lord know i do it myself lol

Yoga - get your self a DVD and get into it.

if you feel liek disclosing your height and weigh then perhaps it would be easier to gauge.

but either way be kind to yourself and rent a funny movie or sigh up to comedy channel laughing helps the soul
Posted by: grey rabbit, Thursday, July 21, 2011, 1:16am; Reply: 4
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laughing helps the soul
so true :)
Posted by: SandrAruba, Thursday, July 21, 2011, 1:45am; Reply: 5
Quoted from PCUK-Positive
two things, first it takes time to adjust to a new climate and location. temperature change takes a while for the body to adjust.

secondly how are you with taking iodine? I'm not an expert or anything but when i tested it recently it gave ne an immense boost. although it cause other problems in the rear so to speak lol

Although if i may be so bold as to suggest you do look at the dieting if it is necessary. weight is a issue to health - it is very easy to use any excuse (not saying you are, of course) to eat the wrong foods. Lord know i do it myself lol

Yoga - get your self a DVD and get into it.

if you feel liek disclosing your height and weigh then perhaps it would be easier to gauge.

but either way be kind to yourself and rent a funny movie or sigh up to comedy channel laughing helps the soul


I take kelp every day, without it I'm worthless. As for weight, yes I need to  loose about kilo's. I am 1.70 meter (5foot7) and about 100 kilo's. I already lost 30 kilo's, but with no dieting I meant, no limiting of calories. It says clearly in the book that heavy dieting will halt my metabolism. That's not what I need or want right now. So I am following my Swami, with lots of veggies, enough fruit, and fish and turkey every now and then. I was thinking of incorporating some beans and limiting my amount of chicken for a while. I think I am (at this moment) 99% compliant.

I had been limiting my food intake and I think it's part of the problem at this moment. I remember last time I lost weight easily I ate more then I have been doing these last months. So I upped my amount of veggies mostly. Not too much fruit because of the sugar levels.

And I've had my episodes of pity eatings, but that makes me feel even worse so even though I am tempted I refuse to give in to it and instead I grab some tomatoes, or a slice of cucumber to munch on.
Posted by: SandrAruba, Thursday, July 21, 2011, 1:46am; Reply: 6
Quoted from grey rabbit
  but if I didn't have some down-time I would get sooooo stressed, I was starting to have chest pains (had my heart checked out and it was fine).


I have had that exact same thing.
Posted by: passionprincess, Thursday, July 21, 2011, 3:06am; Reply: 7
Hugs, Sandra! Yes, being compliant with foods and giving yourself time to just do nothing is very important. I had to always be on the go because I worked full time while doing my first master's degree and then my health really deteriorated after I moved to the midwest (snow) from sunny Los Angeles.

Please "force" yourself to take it easy. I learned the hard way. Even if I am a B, I am very ambitious and on the go. Yet, when I burnt out, I really burnt out and could not function - getting out of bed was even difficult. I am a lot more balanced now but I saw not having enough down time could do to a person.

Sending you positive and healthy energy!!!
Posted by: Amazone I., Thursday, July 21, 2011, 8:01pm; Reply: 8
:o :-/(think)(think) can only realte to you both A & B ;)... I only learned it the hard way and went into a burnout 1999 it was terrible.... :'( :(
Sandra, slow down let go and perhaps give also a try to Louise Hays booklet (that helped me out tremendiously;  being honest to ourselves...  must confess that I wasn't able to go further and feel like a fool.... have probs with my bladder and other issues but thus only by psychosomatics & stress responses.... but I'm an intp so far I
try to overcome all about "without having any feelings"... and over years my body showed me right now who's da maischda... :-/ :o :B :B

look also into the encyclopedia of Christian Beerlandt's.... amazing... and perhaps may I recommend to you both, as I begun lately... go and see a so called:bodytalking- therapiist.... !!! http://www.bodytalksystem.com  :D

thanx to my roostersis Debra, my adnexes & uterus are still with me....and I won't give em away coz of my own false behaviour whithin years and decades.... :-/(dizzy)(shhh)...

the culprits are into our wrongly related believes-systems... nada màs...!!!


btw... implementing some beautiful essential oils in that area helps muchmore then anything else... a true painkiller are : geranium, mix of niauli&lavender oil, cajeput and lots more... but the true issue here I guess is merely the olfactorique issue...


p.s.

Sandra you should also look for the Enada NADH ;) :D...B-vits, Mg,gaba & l'tyrosine....(smile)(smarty)

wish you all the best :K) from Isa
Posted by: deblynn3, Thursday, July 21, 2011, 8:26pm; Reply: 9
Sounds like a well thought out plan and I think this is the right time. With hubby gone, you should spend time for yourself. I would and I'm an O.
Posted by: Goldie, Thursday, July 21, 2011, 8:51pm; Reply: 10
You have had on up and down year, and many expectations.. give your self time to adjust to changes with mom, a nasty issue, give your self time to do all the positive stuff you decided upon..

all the best.. and just in case you need to go re-read your earliest posting threads here.. you will see how far you came since then.. all the best..
Posted by: SandrAruba, Thursday, July 21, 2011, 11:11pm; Reply: 11
Quoted from Goldie

all the best.. and just in case you need to go re-read your earliest posting threads here.. you will see how far you came since then.. all the best..


Oh I realize that all too much. I tell people many times, without this diet I would not be where I am today. I would probably be totally messed up pumped up with drugs prescribed by doctors who don't know what's wrong with me and 300 pounds.

This way of life saved my life, of that I am convinced. I just need to get over that last bump.
Posted by: Joy, Thursday, July 21, 2011, 11:24pm; Reply: 12
SandrAruba,

It sounds like you are really fine-tuning issues.  Isa is right on, of course, with her suggestions about essential oils.  

For example.  This morning I did alot in a short period of time.  I wound up with a headache.
I did a quick mental rundown of my usual routine.  What I had not done was use the Peppermint oil which I gently dab just at my nostrils.  Peppermint is known for mental alertness and in this case after I applied the oil my headache disappeared.  

I was having a "York Peppermint Patty Moment"  if anyone remembers the commercial here on TV years ago.  

I have recommended this site before http://www.AnandaApothecary.com as the essential oils and mixtures a certified organic and pharmaceutical grade.  

Isa, I'm going to get Geranium oil.  It's probably one of the few oils I don't have. HA HA.  I have learned so much from browsing the site and the people are just stellar in answering questions.

Good luck.

Joy
Posted by: Amazone I., Friday, July 22, 2011, 4:58am; Reply: 13
well done Joy.... :D(clap)(ok)(dance)(smarty)(sunny)
Posted by: JJR, Saturday, July 23, 2011, 10:22pm; Reply: 14
I used to drink 2 lattes a day to keep up with myself.  I worked hard and played hard.  I thought that's how life was supposed to be.  And add that a sick kid that didn't allow me to sleep well, a stressful job, stress everywhere in my life and I had a mid life crash.  Plus, physical problems like possibly lymes disease and other junk in the guts and immune system and I am to the point where I do very little at times.  And it was a HUGE change and I feel like a heal because of it.  But that's life.  

My advice is slow down before your body gives out.  We can only take so much.  Just relax.  Smell the roses.  Painting your house isn't a NEED.  It's a want.  First make sure your needs are taken care of first.  If you feel like resting is needed, you're probably right.  Plus, the wrong paint could make you sick anyways.  Although it seems like they are offering so many more no VOC's paint nowadays.  
Posted by: Jane, Saturday, July 23, 2011, 11:16pm; Reply: 15
Not having a thyroid  be part of the problem.  I had thyroid cancer and had mine removed in 1996 and I also had a parathyroid adenoma removed at the same time.  Exhaustion is something I understand well.  I take enough thyroid extract to make my TSH almost undetectable and I have a lot of trouble sleeping.  Be good to yourself and don't feel guilty about it!!!!!!!
Jane
Posted by: SandrAruba, Sunday, July 24, 2011, 12:20am; Reply: 16
Thanks guys for all advice. I knew I came to right place. This entire week I did what I felt like doing and that wasn't a whole lot.  ;D Today I made my banana bread and my blueberry muffins, I did some laundry and some grocery shopping and the rest of the day, I've been watching you tube, Monthy phyton - life of brian. I was told that I needed to laugh and that is exactly what I am doing.

I will see what I will do tomorrow. If I don't feel like doing anything I won't do anything. Maybe I'll do some photography been thinking about a new theme to shoot.

And I am so compliant with my meals. I'm so proud of myself. Today for the first time I made a totally vegetarian meal, with black beans and spinach. Normally I always have either fish or turkey or chicken. Not today and I must say, I like the feeling afterwards.

I'll keep you all posted on my progress.
Posted by: JJR, Sunday, July 24, 2011, 3:07am; Reply: 17
SWEET.  I love photography.  I do some 35mm sometimes when I'm feeling good.
Posted by: SandrAruba, Sunday, July 24, 2011, 6:53pm; Reply: 18
Quoted from JJR
SWEET.  I love photography.  I do some 35mm sometimes when I'm feeling good.


I want to get a full frame digital (5D mark II) but for now I am very happy with my Canon 40D. Later today I will make some pictures, see if I can get what's in my head on film (or digital frame in my case). Afternoon lighting is always very nice and it's not so hot after 5.

Posted by: Canadj, Monday, July 25, 2011, 5:03am; Reply: 19
Have you had your iron levels checked?

Glad that moving back home is working out.  I get these killer migraines in my hometown, and I'd like to leave, but all I get is ridicule, so I guess I should just up and leave.
Posted by: SandrAruba, Tuesday, August 9, 2011, 12:35am; Reply: 20
Wanted to give you guys an update:
things are getting better. Sleeping goes better. Not waking up as often. And the other day, I got 6 hours straight! A new record.

Energy level is increasing. I just know that as soon as I feel a bit better I start doing a whole lot again, so I just have to contain myself. Limit the amount of work I do around the house. Yesterday I did an hour work in the morning, and one hour in the afternoon. For the rest i read, relax, do some computer. I went out and took pictures with my new camera, that really got me going again.

Today after I got home I did some yard work just for 45 minutes or so. just cleaning something up (we have several coconut palms in the yard and the leaves on those are just huge but have to cleaned up every now and then) palm leaves. Just enough to get the blood flowing and feeling satisfied that I got some work done and get these lazy muscles working again.

I am going to try to keep this up.
Posted by: Victoria, Tuesday, August 9, 2011, 1:56am; Reply: 21
Good news, Sandra!  Have you ever tried Ashwagandha?  It's an especially good adaptogen (helps with a healthy stress response) for type A's, as well as an effective fatigue fighter.
Posted by: AKArtlover, Tuesday, August 9, 2011, 10:39am; Reply: 22
Happy for you!
Posted by: 14442 (Guest), Monday, August 15, 2011, 8:13pm; Reply: 23
Spend some time outside every day for vitamin D.  Go to sleep as early as possible in as dark a room as possible.  Buy sleep masks to wear so that all light is blocked out.  Get up at an early hour and do some light exercise-- cardio, weights then some yoga.  Do this a few days a week.1-2 days a week walk.  Make sure you have your A type foods stocked up and eat well.  I've gotten more energy from eating most of my food at night.  You can have a recovery meal after your workout then eat lightly on fruits and veggies till dinner.  

Hormones play a big role so consider supplementing.  I'm feeling better since adding transdermal 7 keto DHEA; its a metabolite of DHEA that's supposed to suppress cortisol.  Look in to it.

After you do all that, make sure to pampered yourself and make sure you do nice things for yourself.
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