The Myers-Briggs now says I'm an ISFP. In college I was an INFJ. What gives?
Both times I STRONGLY scored in the introvert category (this time 89%). Maybe I need to go live in the country?
Quoted from jayneeoTJ, I disagree with that approach, we are not objective with ourselves, the questions are there to provide reality checks lest we "choose" the stuff we prefer.
The interesting thing about the inventory is it is set up so that you can be high in things that seem to conflict or low in them (hmmm) such as I score high in both extroversion and introversion (extro being higher) and some folks score low in both. Curious, but fits me perfectly. I am very extroverted but also spend time alone doing art, meditating, writing, etc.
Quoted from atticus182That was very interesting. I found myself wanting a "sometimes" or "i don't know" option for a few of those questions, but I still think the results were pretty accurate. I scored INFJ. I read a few of the other profiles to see if I could find myself in those, and I couldn't relate too much. I can see how it may change a bit over time because I know my answers would not have been exactly the same even five years ago.
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I don't think it is manipulation, more not answering for who they are.
NewtypeA, as we age it gets easier, be reassured. It is hard to be on the inside looking in and that is indeed what you are trying to do.
Thing is that the people who know us best are usually on the outside, looking at us, but we often don't want to hear from them.
I found that Dr. D's ideas of who I am as a Warrior blood type A helped me to sort of "get it" about myself. I was then able to let go of some things that I was trying to be and let me be me, I guess that is self acceptance.
The one major issue I'm having with this job is the fact that we are expected to connect with people socially and be warm with them. It is hard for me to engage people unless I'm in the mood for it. It's a struggle for me to even remember to say "hi" to my coworkers in the morning. I have to make a conscious effort to do so. Some of them probably think I'm just rude. I certainly don't mean to be. Just seems strange to greet people I see every day. Face-to-face interactions are HARD for me. Eye contact and facing the person instead of pointing my feet away from them is HARD.
I can relate to this. I remember reading about a family that made a game of looking people and each other directly in the eyes when speaking to them.
I try and do this every now and then to see if I can do it. It does not come naturally to me, but I don't think for most people it does ( maybe you B's)
I am a Nurse( even though my mom hated the idea, I didn't care) and it suits me. I do love care taking... it is my co workers that I see daily that are harder to deal with.
I have spent the last 15 years doing what is called floating from floor to floor (sort of like a sub.. teacher). It has kept me away from long term relationships with my co-workers .. not so bad for me, as that is how I am comfortable. But this year I have taken a job working in Endoscopy so I see the same people everyday, it is a challenge but I am ready. Older wiser and with a better set of coping skills, I will be OK. I have learned some things from the people here on this board that I never would have imagined could happen, like MF and her Good, Better and Best thing(it is like the best thing for me, to be more moderate in my approach). I also have a great husband who can see through the junk and helps me deal with people better.
I also have a great husband who can see through the junk and helps me deal with people better.
I'm there. I like to "extrovert" but it is tiring! I felt rather outgoing today after church, talking to several people before I left. Even so, I prefer talking to only one or two at a time.Quoted from Kristin[I]f I am in social mode too long, I do notice how fatigued I become and then it is time to retreat. So... still a true introvert even though it probably doesn't look like I am on the outside.
Quoted from RibbitOkay, I've got a question for y'all, Sharon and Andrea (and you too, NewTypeA and anyone else lurking):
On the one hand, we've got those of us who stay in the same position even though it's not the best for us (we might actually hate it) just because it messes us up to change.
On the other hand, we've got those of us who jump from thing to thing for variety and so we don't have to deal with closeness.
I am both ways, and I'm not sure why.
In my routines, I like sameness. (I go to the same grocery store. I go the same route. It won't occur to me to take a different route even though I know it might be faster, until somebody points it out.) In my furniture I like variety (meaning, things don't stay in one place very long. I'm constantly moving things around and switching the kids' rooms and putting this table here or there). If things stay in one place very long, I get antsy and start moving things again. Drives DH nuts. I shy away from long-term commitments because I always end up on the BAD end of the deal. I've got people trying to make me "commit" to a home school group, when I'd rather hop from group to group. Same with church. No, I'm not going to stay in the same church for long--it drives me nuts. The familiarity sets in and people start feeling like they can tell me what to do (how to organize myself, how to teach my kids, how to "be a better wife" -- excuse me, I know my husband and you do not -- ) and I always get myself into trouble. I might stick around longer if people understood me and let me do it the way I need to do it to stay sane. I almost wish I could get a real diagnosis (beyond ADD and dyslexia) so I could explain to people what the deal is. They either love me (I attract type B males) or they can't stand me and try to "fix" my problems. Once people think everything's familiar and we're good enough buddies to let down our hair around each other, I start getting preached at about issues that are really my business. Like, "You never, never leave the kitchen a mess at night." You know how many times I've heard that? I used to believe it until DH eventually said, "Let me explain to you the Law of Diminishing Returns. There comes a point at which you just need to go to bed and tackle it the next day." And he is right. People's Sacred Schedules might work for them, but when they feel comfortable enough to start imposing them on me? I'm out of there. Does that make any sense? I hope that doesn't sound arrogant. It's just that they can't understand that there are differences in the way people tick.
Ribbit, I'll have to think more about what you posted. But yeah, I hate it when people feel the need to criticize my lifestyle or personality or feelings. It's been awhile since I went to church. I've learned that having a mind of my own doesn't work in church. It invites criticism.