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Posted by: 1323 (Guest), Monday, March 5, 2007, 12:47am
Hello All... My husband, Type A will not comply with the blood type regime.  He eats meat and protein more than anything and drinks lots of coffee.  I've at least gotten him to drink half caff.  When under stress, he likes to go straight to a burger!

He does like vegie burgers and soy dogs but he will not stop eating meat and I can barely get him to eat vegies even though he LOVES brussel sprouts.  He hardly eats any fruit and will not eat much of it, period end.

So my question is, how can I secretly help him without him knowing it?  I was thinking I could at least add a digestive enzyeme at each meal to help him digest the meat.  Comments on this???

I know he will have to get to an almost heat attack level before he will change.  Unfortunately it happens that way with alot of people including me!  I had to get beaten down physically before I would pay attention.

At any rate, suggestions would help immensely.  

He is not stubborn, he just likes to do what he likes to do and does not like anyone controlling him and if he wants to eat a certain thing, by God he's going to eat it!  

Thanks so much in advance!

Posted by: Rodney, Monday, March 5, 2007, 1:01am; Reply: 1
hello funkymuse,
If he is not in bad health, and doesn't care yet about what he puts in his mouth then what can you really do {Shrug} keep in charge of your health and when he does get sick you can say I told you so!! I sure wouldn't want anyone sneaking anything into my diet without me knowing even if it was going to be beneficial.
I feel part if healing my body is taking special note to what I eat whether its food or a supplements and  mentally note what it is I am doing to myself.
and believe me I have to be on top if it all of the time.
Helpful suggestions and examples are what I am doing with my wife and it is helping some.
Posted by: veggiegirl, Monday, March 5, 2007, 1:12am; Reply: 2
I agree ... you can't make him do it.  He's gotta want to do it for himself.  When I first started BTD and saw that I was supposed to eat a mostly vegetarian diet, I thought ... no way will I be able to do this.  I wasn't a big meat eater, but initially, I resented being told I can't have a big juicy burger when I wanted it.  You know what?  I really don't miss red meat ... in fact, I don't eat chicken or turkey (neutrals for A's) either.  I had to decide to give this a try for me and came to an "understanding" with myself that I would try it for 1 month and if I didn't see or feel a difference, I wouldn't continue with it.  Well, it's over 2 months later and I'm still here!

My husband sees how this has changed me ... weight loss, inches lost, mood improvements ... and he supports me.  He is a B and although he isn't technically following the BTD, he's paying attention and making small changes.  I've even caught him reading the books every now and then so I know he's checking things out for himself.  I'm not pushing him to do it-- I think that would backfire.  I'm just happy that I'm having a positive affect on how he's looking at things.

Maybe he'll eventually see how it could change his life and join you, but until then, continue to focus on your health and not become derailed or discouraged.  You should be proud of YOUR accomplishments!  
Posted by: ABJoe, Monday, March 5, 2007, 1:17am; Reply: 3
If he insists on eating non-compliantly, you need to keep eating correctly and when he has trouble, he'll either eat right or hurt more...

My wife (A) kind of poked the diet with a stick...  She had problems and only then would eat compliantly until she felt good again.  She has pushed it several times with the same results...  She has started eating compliantly now, but still isn't sleeping enough.  Hopefully, I can convince her to get more sleep so she doesn't continue having problems...  I don't want her to think that the diet is faulty!
Posted by: KimonoKat, Monday, March 5, 2007, 1:34am; Reply: 4
Lead him to the BTD well by example.  That's all you can do for now.  There is the possibility that your husband may never change, and you need to love him and accept him for who he is, and his own life choices.

The other thing you can do, is learn, learn, learn as much as you can about the BTD, and especially the Type A diet.  That way if and when he does start asking questions, you will have the answers right there, immediately, and won't have to come here or look it up in a book to answer him.
Posted by: Rodney, Monday, March 5, 2007, 1:57am; Reply: 5
I had an idea, does he eat papaya? that's a good thing to eat to break down protein. check in the typebase for his blood type and if he can eat it see of he would. the supplements are good to IMO.
I would chew them up and enjoy the taste.
Posted by: italybound, Monday, March 5, 2007, 2:31am; Reply: 6
Quoted from Rodney
hello funkymuse,If he is not in bad health, and doesn't care yet about what he puts in his mouth then what can you really do {Shrug} keep in charge of your health and when he does get sick you can say I told you so!!

I partially agree w/ you Rodney. Nothing you can do until they want to do it, true, but I sure wouldn't say I told ya so when they get sick. If they're anything like me, that would just make me dig my heels in and be more bound and determined not to do it. Just my opinion.  ;)  I know it might take some tongue biting not to say "i told ya so", (been there), but I bit my tongue (hurt too).  ;)  My DH is just like ABJoe's wife.  :-/
Posted by: 1323 (Guest), Monday, March 5, 2007, 2:34am; Reply: 7
>>>>My wife (A) kind of poked the diet with a stick... >>>

I found this statement hilarious!  ha...  I definitely did this for awhile!  ha...  

I don't force anything on him.  I just mention things here and there. My last husband was an A and reacted to stress the same way my current one does, and so that has been a good starting conversation because my current husband really relates spiritually to my previous man who died of cancer.  

Today I read out of the LR4YT on stress and personality types for A.  He didn't say much, but when I ask him if he wanted a regular hamburger patty or a vegie patty with our stirfried vegies tonight, (olive oil, kale, onion, zucchini, orange pepper); he chose the vegie patty!   (I added pineapple to my vegies and brussel spouts to his).

So progress... :)

I was just thinking when I ask this forum question, if I could add some digestive enzymes for the times he eats meat.  He won't touch papaya!  

Thanks all...
Posted by: Lola, Monday, March 5, 2007, 2:38am; Reply: 8
papaya.......don t think so if being an A......
Posted by: Vicki, Monday, March 5, 2007, 4:04am; Reply: 9
T'ai chi or yoga would be something he may benefit from a great deal.  If he is a non-secretor, then the A diet looks very different.  Soy hotdogs have avoids?  Same for commercial veggie burgers.

Turkey burgers (Cook Right For Your Type) may be more delicious to him than beef burgers.

Nitrate free chicken hotdogs are okay with mustard.
Posted by: Debra+, Monday, March 5, 2007, 4:17am; Reply: 10
Oh my my...welcome to my world funkymouse.  At least your hubby will eat veggie burgers and brussel sprouts.  Mine hardly eats anything compliant.   And...even as of late he doesn't even want to eat the beneficial meals I cook.  Eats alot of tomato sauce and processed foods that are ready made in a box.  He has quit smoking which is a bonus.  But now he eats even more sugary things.  Don't know if he is a secretor or a non-secretor.  Had a test for him, but he won't do it so I gave it away.  Maybe one day he will follow BTD...maybe not.  You have to do for yourself...that is the main thing otherwise you will both become unhealthy.  

As Cocky always says "You can lead them and guide can't make them do it."

Debra :)
Posted by: ISA-MANUELA (Guest), Monday, March 5, 2007, 8:11am; Reply: 11
::) we haven't any commitment for others, only the permission for our lifes ;) so not easy to accepts to have an eye on their bills' to pay in case of sickness :-/ but it's up to them, if they just can learn in that way ::)
Posted by: 1323 (Guest), Monday, March 5, 2007, 3:18pm; Reply: 12
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference!!! :)
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