I had a thought when reading this. When we're approaching someone to speak to them, we can see them and read body language to know if they seem to be in a good mood, to see if it seems like a good time to approach, etc. Not true over the phone. It's like walking up to someone blind-folded to strike up a conversation. Once the conversation is going, the anxiety is gone, or lessened, because now you know where you stand.
I have this same thought also, don't worry, this is where screening calls is handy for them too
I really like talking on the phone. I think I like it because I'm shy and really struggle with people face to face. I like listening to things too.
Ah, this struck a chord with me, I realised the mobile phone has been an absolute boon for my close relative who can not talk to me at home, but can call me and chat openly and lengthily on the phone! This may sound strange, it is! But mental illness throws up these weird and difficult situations.
SO, I am truly grateful to the mobile phone being an enabler in this situation, for someone who has difficulty expressing themselves in one situation, but can feel totally themselves on the phone - truly it makes me happy, even though I myself only use the phone for 'practical' type calls, I have learnt to tap it and work it to add this whole entire new dimension into my relationship with this relative. So there you go, odd story for the day
This makes sense. I don't like calling people who don't like to talk on the phone because, since i don't like to talk on the phone, I understand how they feel. I also don't like calling people who like to talk on the phone because I feel like I'll get trapped talking to them forever.
I had a thought when reading this. When we're approaching someone to speak to them, we can see them and read body language to know if they seem to be in a good mood, to see if it seems like a good time to approach, etc. Not true over the phone. It's like walking up to someone blind-folded to strike up a conversation. Once the conversation is going, the anxiety is gone, or lessened, because now you know where you stand.
... 2) You hate receiving calls so much that it extends to making them as well. Placing a call means that you'll have to talk on the phone. Maybe there's also some kind of fear of placing somebody else in the position of having to answer the phone?
These both make sense. I'm so hyper aware of the other person's tone over the phone. Maybe I feel like they're as irritated by phone calls as I am - even when I am returning theirs! I always ask, "Is this a good time to talk?" when I've called. Always, without fail. I think I have the notion that I'm being intrusive.
. In church, I like to close my eyes to listen to the sermon (priest probably thinks I'm sleeping) to block out visual distractions;
Me too! Sometimes I visualize what is going on in the bible passages and I always seem to learn more.
And everyone that came on this post. Who thought this would take all these directions? I think we just nailed all phone anxiety concerns and I could go write a training course for telemarketers.
I believe message boards are skewed to the introvert side. FB may be skewed a little to the extrovert side. Just a theory that can be stuffed in a sack with many others.
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