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 Do you try/want to do too many things at once?
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No (8 votes)
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65 Votes Total Last vote Friday, July 27, 2012, 5:04pm by delightfuldeb
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My vote is to yes. Even when my hands are full I am interested in doing a lot of stuff. There are just so many appealing things, so many that seem important too. Then it may not help that I want to be altruistic at the same time.
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The japanese say that type A really take responsibilities well.


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I agree, we are responsible, great workers , perfectionists and multitaskers  to be satisfied with ourselves, I can stop myself just before getting exhaustion, but my energy is pretty scaring for lazy people !


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My energy flags the next day  
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Pushing my like button to all the comments. There is just not enough time in the day for an A.


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Yes. I got myself overwhelmed often, until I learned about making a task list. Now I write down everything I want to accomplish in a day and cross them off one at a time as I complete them. I make a game out of it to finish everything on the list.    Also the A minds are always going with things that we need to think about and accomplish..hence the need for meditation...for balance.
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Oh yeah. It's been a challenge for me to let go of the fact that I cannot do everything at once.




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It looks like I am the only one who answered no here...haha! Most people would say that I do too many things, but my DH is an overly ambitious A Explorer and keeping up with him is sometimes a challenge. I am responsible and good worker and a perfectionist, but if I can focus on one thing at a time I will gladly choose that over multi-tasking. It helps keep my stress level down which is needed for this A!  


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My good blood type A friend is a 7 day a week workaholic.  He also reads idk like 100 books a year.
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Sheesh, all of these over energetic A bunny rabbits.

This A has had too many decades of energy robbing allergies, low thyroid and sleep apnea to ever want to do anything requiring serious amounts of energy.

Multitasking??? Ummmm, do you mean something more than sleeping AND breathing??

Time for my mid-evening nap  

Seriously, I am in awe of your ambition and energy levels.

Andrew


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I have observe blood type a are earnest people.


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No, it exhausts me just to think of doing too many things. I can end up feeling responsible for things over which I have no control and that becomes unhealthy. I probably used to be more like that but after overdoing things and almost having a breakdown I learned to only take on what I know I can handle.


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I voted a strong yes! There are at least three things I want to be doing while I am doing this! But nutrition has been a strong focus for me since I was fourteen. That is a long time ago! Fifty-five years to be exact!


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Yes. I had great training in multi-tasking as a jeans designer for 10 yrs. I had to come out with 2 major seasonal lines and 2 injection lines in a year. A line may have from 10-20 different styles, each style may have up to 7 colors and 10-12 sizes. All preparations are done at least 18 months before the line is out in stores. I stopped working as a designer when I had my 4th child and focused my attention on them. Then I got sick and fat. That was 21 yrs ago. The BTD made me  better in making the right choices not only with food but other aspects as well. I still want to do many things at the same time but I try not to. BUT before I am done with one thing I've already started another thing. phew...
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Ditto Mayflowers......
my mind works overtime, always spinning and planning but I am easily overwhelmed then need to stop, retreat and get calm...  


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I have learned that multitasking only creates more frustration at least for me anyway. But I have a lot of projects lined up to keep me busy enough without being overwhelmed.


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I am the laziest person around.  I don't see this as a trait of all A's.  I know many O's like this and some more lazy A's like me. I don't even have a desire to do a lot of things.  Never have.
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An absolute "yes" for me.  

I'm in the middle of a challenging situation now and I find that if I have to wait for a solution from others I immediately start working and thinking about something else even though that can't be resolved and is in the future.

I simply must have lists.  I buy post it notes and stick them onto something flat in my purse so that I constantly have a direction.  

I just bought Bach "White Chestnut"  The description says something like "when your thoughts keep spinning round and round and you just can't shut your mind off".  That's for me alright!!

If I'm working on something like jewelry making though I am very focused and calm.

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My A tendencies are kicking in big time today. I made a list but find myself seeing other things and straying from it. Trying to do everything at once. Have to keep reminding myself to get back to the list. I work one day a week now and attend school one day. Cooking for 2 blood types takes up alot of time. Husband goes into work later and son gets home at 3 so not much time to get things accomplished. Liked it when I had days all to myself. I am more productive when no one gets in my way. The age thing is catching up to me. I used to be able to accomplish all of the house cleaning and laundry in one day. No longer possible. Maybe we should start posting our lists here to hold ourselves accountable. Well, back to the list. Catch ya later.


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Quoted from Marc121
The japanese say that type A really take responsibilities well.


I missed this gift that A's have!  I do not like having too many responsibilities and too much will be stressful to me.

I like sailing in my own wind i guess you could say.  If it is a thing i put on myself and feel important, then i do it, but if it is externally placed on me, i find it annoying and stressful often times.  I am trying to get better with this.

I like having punch lists to work with.  That is how i can really get things done.  
  

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hello. do you know eckhart tolle?you can see him even on youtube with ophra. he is the answer, for me anyway.


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hello. do you know eckhart tolle?you can see him even on youtube with ophra. he is the answer, for me anyway.


Could you give a little more detail please.


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He's an author....I have one of his books "A new earth"....he's excellent....similar to Deepak Chopra....

I am for sure a multi~tasking A! Sometimes there is so much I want to do and so much running through my head that I literally shut down like a deer caught in headlights...





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The more I read about "typical  blood type personalities" the more I think my oldest daughter has the personality of an A, even though she's an O.


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PrincessMia,
I am so like you in the way I really crave time alone so as to focus more easily and then get things done in a somewhat timely manner!
When you first order products from Dr.D...NAP...they send you the ABO profile pages.
When my DH and I read about O's(he is a Hunter) and A's we agreed that he is a typical O and I fit the A exactly!!! He likes loud, combative movies and TV, craves excitement and people, and multitasks. I get tense and crabby if the volume is too loud, hate violence, like alone time, and feel overwhelmed much of the time.
I have great intentions of being organized and working hard but "life" gets in my way and I get frustrated that I have not accomplished what I planned.

EasyE,
I understand exactly what you mean re: the stress and responsibility!  


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PrincessMia mentioned straying......I am sooooo guilty of that. I do it with thoughts, conversations, physical tasks and then get annoyed with myself!
I will start many things and finish one...maybe.


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I dunno.
My A-watching reveals that A's really do stress themselves out by thinking they "should" do this and that...they only rarely have the kind of energy that can equal their ideas. But the ideas really can have that "I should"/guilt-inducing quality about them. As if, morally, they'd consider themselves better persons if they could only do this or that.

When they just let themselves be themselves, they can appear lazy, by "O" standards! And they're afraid of being so judged. As if they have an overactive superego/inner judge. They can act like they're trying to lengthen/beef-up their resumés, to impress someone. But they're happier, IMO, when they stretch out like cats in the sunshine, maybe reading something edifying, or perfecting something very fine/refined. Yes, perfecting something. Some detail. A's just have to find their calling, their focus. Once they do, they don't scatter so much, and then they're much more content.

Also: What is "too many things" for an A might be "just right" or  "a slow day" for a robust O.

Sorry. Just rambled. Totally.  


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Yes for overactive superego/inner judge and the need to focus and a call, Sanj, but by my really younger colleague  I was told a caterpiller in the best meaning, as when we believe in what we do we cannot be stopped, bullied or mobbed; and he was always tired before me !! (Blood group AB perhaps explorer  with allergies)  . This provided we had a nice environment to grow up...


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SanJ,
Yes, I do put enormous pressure on myself to do or accomplish everything.
But make no mistake about "being lazy" as the A's I know ( myself included) are far from it! My endurance and stamina are tougher than my hyperactive O hunter husband!
I "stretch out" in the sunshine with my 6 dogs daily and love my alone time to read or cook but need quite a bit of physical activity everyday, also.
( My Dad is an O- Explorer and we share many traits)


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We B's are the laziest-appearing lot, for sure.
I think A's would like to relax more - that's really what I meant. They're afraid of being judged for it, internally and otherwise, whereas B's aren't as needful of that "approval"...

Speaking for myself, I'm working even when I appear not to be, and I think it may be related to the "visualizing" thing? I'm writing an essay in my head, I'm editing someone else's work, I'm listing points for a review -- that sort of thing. But that's B, and this is your thread, not ours. Didn't mean to confuse matters. But glad the "inner judge" thing was helpful for you.


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SanJ,
Its all good.
Yes, that "approval" thing irritates the heck out of me...
Why do A's allow ourselves to care so much about what others think?


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The most tough is our inner judge,
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I have seen enough to care a bit less of what others think


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I quit caring what people think of me a few years ago. Now I live to please myself.


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Maria and PrincessMia,

As I get older I find it easier to say "whatever" to others opinions, but I still need to work on not judging myself.


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A decisive yes here.  I have had a "To Do" list for years that I follow quite closely to keep focused yet it seems to get longer and longer.  Staying focused on a task is a very important challenge for me in day to day life.  I always say that if I could only find a way not to have to eat or sleep, I could accomplish everything that I want in this life.  There is just so much that interests me.
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I am also always trying to please others. Maybe it is the idea that blood type a's evolved from those who all had to get along in a little community. In the world in which i live especially in the city it seems more about being independent, tonnes of energy needed, pacing up and down escalators, crowds, smoke, pollution,  getting into confrontations and more o=ish. It has taken me 3 years of doing it to feeling utterly zapped of energy, brain fogging getting on a bus and not knowing how I got to a destination!! Realizing I was an A made all the sense in the world to me. City life makes me want to run to the country and hug some trees and live in a nice quiet little village. Even so maybe an example of me wanting to do too much to 'get away' and then getting stressed about it, going into a brain fog and ending up doing not much at all.
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Oh my goodness, dofo and Blouis......I completely understand and feel likewise!
The older I get, the more I want to escape to a serene, slow paced, natural beauty area of the world. Provence or just about any village across the south of France, the western coast of Ireland, or maybe even around Ashland, Oregon come to mind.
The O's in my family drive me crazy with loud tv, rushing here and there, wanting lots of people around, etc. I get anxious and want to scream sometimes. I absolutely love it when everyone is gone and I get a few hours alone at home.


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I am half and half.  I like alone time and quietness and sometimes i love being with a lot of people and loudness.  If i have too much quiet i get really bored and if i have too much go go go i get aggravated.

My wife is an O gatherer and loves talking on her phone and mostly prefers being around or talking to people.  

I am like prob 60/40 go and quiet and she is like 85 to 90 percent go and 15 percent quiet.
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Yes!

Great thread - I'll have to come back and read it more carefully later       run, run, run

Cajun and Joy really express me pretty well  -   spinning thoughts and overwhelmed

List  are lifesavers ---  In the past I even wrote things down in the middle of the night to get them  out of my head so I could sleep.  Now it's pretty much sticky notes on my purse befor I go to bed.  

I'm going to check out "Bach's  'White Chestnut'  '    

Pilates -  I do an hour class 2 x week and it is wonderful.   I'm stronger,  calmer  and so much  less pain.      
  
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I've had situations lately that have taken me uphill and down dale alot emotionally.   Attention Deficit is thrown into the mix which can be creative but I always need a grounding tool.  

I have an O (based on my obversation and his confirmation of the Universal "O" type blood) relative visiting me  that  doesn't follow the BTD at all.  

I remember a few things I've heard or read along the way (haven't we all??? that seem to automatically pop into my head just when I need it.

One is:  Never rent space to anyone else in your head.  Easily spoken but in family and close relations harder to do.  yet, there it is.  A constant reminder.

Limit the number of people that I need to have approval.  Unchecked in childhood and still causes conflict.  Sound familiar, anyone?   OK so it is part of the human experience perhaps, no?

When I do have extended quiet time I find myself obsessed sometimes with "mentally trying to tidy things up in my mind".  I read one time from a very wise man that there are people who would rather be right than be happy.  (happiness is a relative term according to one's own self)

Inner peace is precious (more now to me than ever) and yet it doesn't mean just getting away,ignoring the situation, shutting down, etc.  It may have to do with involving oneself in interaction with others maybe in a way that takes us out of our comfort zone (to a degree) or stating that perhaps I'll take that under advisement or just being silent.   Hmmm. is an OK response.  

Our pasts will never individually be repeated, the future is yet to evolve and what is left is our present.


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Joy, I understand! I hope you come out feeling better.

     I have often wondered if I may have ADD symptoms. Most of my life I remember
     being easily distracted when trying to focus. I got very good grades in
     school and college but had to isolate myself to study...no noise, people,etc.
     I am even like that today when I'm busy in my kitchen. I don't want anyone
     hanging around or wanting to visit while i am cooking/baking. I do enjoy soft  
     music in the background but no other distractions. This seems to be the only way
     I can finish anything.

Purlgirl, I make lists also but seem to keep re-making them or not being able to cross everything off! I have great intentions but......       


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I don't usually make a list but... If I can in my head scheduled things I need to do, I get to stop thinking about them so I don't feel stressed out about them. The problem is when that scheduled time doesn't work (say for a paper I am working on while in school).  
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I received some of the best advice ever. When I get overwhelmed I sit with my two feet on the ground, sit comfortably and imagine my happy place and deep breathe,  in through the nose and out the mouth. Be sure the air is causing your stomach to rise and not your chest. I cant wait for things to get back to normal. I miss my quiet time. Son has been away often. He has a girlfriend and is happily in love. I am just so happy for him. He finally came home last night and said to me that he is in disbelief how much it hurts to miss someone. I hope his happiness lasts. My husband has been home in my face 24 7 though. I like to get up early and do my chores but he sleeps in. I have to be quiet because he has super ears. When he rises, on goes the tv with noise and violence. I cant stand loud or violence. He always needs rock music in the background when he works or travelling. I like to be with people but people who like the same as me. It seems that since I found myself I am surrounded by wonderful people now.


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Wow, intersting stuff! Yes, my main challenge is focus (and staying calm too methinks!) but the focus thing amazes me how difficult I find it and how easily I zip outta my body/mind at the slightest thing!
I'm a list maker- but sometimes feel I'm drowning in paper! I have so many projects kinda on the go but none completed - argh!
And my semi-partner sleeps in with super ears so I'm creeping around trying not to make noise (but luckily altho he's an O doesn't like loud noise n stuff)!
Helps to read about others experiencing same things.
We should all get together and have an A party! Share tips n tricks n stuff!
Happy project-ing everyone!
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Princess Mia,
I cannot take that loud violent TV either! My O husband and O son don't really understand how much it bothers me. Sometimes I put on my Ipod (earplugs) and sing away while I am cooking dinner...so I can stay sane and focus. They sort of get the message.
Debra,
I make so many lists, rarely get much crossed off and feel like I cannot possibly accomplish all that I want! I am going to try baby steps, a few tasks at a time.
I just know I will be thinking that I really have so much more to do!


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I do the ipod thing too cajun. I make lists as well. I just cannot accomplish what I could 10 years ago. I just have to accept that and not stress myself about it and just do what I can. I think cooking for 2 blood types has a little to do with that.


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You are soooo right PrincessMia!
Stress will kill! I try hard daily to avoid as much as possible.


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A strong 'yes' vote here. I've had too much to do and not enough time to do it in since I was a child. Part of me thinks I have moderate A.D.D, because I get easily sidetracked (which just makes my to-do list longer!) and have trouble finishing the process of thought into action.

Example would be "I need to go home and cook this recipe", which turns into "Let me google the health benefits of Ingredient A", which turns into "Let me check Amazon for some Gluten Free products", which turns into "Let me check the book to see if I can have everything in this Gluten Free product".

That example is an endless cycle for me and happens for as long as I'm awake. I'm 2 weeks into the diet, and hoping that once I start really cooking good food and meditating that my focus issues will fade a bit.


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Danfromosc85,
You just described me!  
I get frustrated with myself because I feel I should be able to focus but.....others in my life tell me that I just do not want to miss out on anything! That could be true as I will listen to conversations going on around me while trying to pay attention to the one I am actually in. Naturally, I get distracted and remind myself I am not a multitasker though I soooo want to be! I have a habit of "going off subject" while in a conversation because I try to include everything related to the subject and have all of these "side stories"!? Is that a symptom of ADD?
Is it an "A" thing?


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Danfromosc85,
You just described me!  
I get frustrated with myself because I feel I should be able to focus but.....others in my life tell me that I just do not want to miss out on anything! That could be true as I will listen to conversations going on around me while trying to pay attention to the one I am actually in. Naturally, I get distracted and remind myself I am not a multitasker though I soooo want to be! I have a habit of "going off subject" while in a conversation because I try to include everything related to the subject and have all of these "side stories"!? Is that a symptom of ADD?
Is it an "A" thing?


I'm glad I'm not alone! I haven't ever been checked for A.D.D so I'm not 100% sure I have it, but I'm assuming it's the reason for my attention issues.

I've actually been able to focus a little better since I switched from energy drinks and junk food to coffee and BTD food. 2 weeks in, so I won't really know until I'm deeper into the diet.

I do the conversation thing too, where I try to listen to every conversation in the room at once, it's something I can't stop myself from doing. If I try to focus hard on one conversation I don't hear anything the person is saying because all I hear in my head is "focus on what this person is saying".


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I am like a diesel engine...sometimes slow to get started, but once i get going i can go and go a long time.  I have begun to notice this about how i work.

I tend to move on Jamacaian time.  Just got married and we went to Jamacaia for the honeymoon.  My wife is an O gatherer.  She tells me sometimes "you are stuck in Jamacain time!"

Slow paced compared to the pace of most Americans.  I live in south louisiana, so it is more leisurly than many other places in america.

She tends to always put too much on her plate, prob from not being able to say "no."

I don't like extended periods of rushing.  When i concerntrate and do not rush, a lot of things to do and stuff coming at you seems like it slows down too.  
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Yes!  we must be all from the same litter -  separated at birth.  

I have an  ipod too  -  love it.   I have all kinds of music plus  magazines & books of  all sorts  on it.  (our local library is great for books)

Some times I have to get  away from all the noise. (esp TV noise!)
Even housework and gardening is easier with the right background sound.
Music can be so soothing esp when I can't sleep.

danfromosc85  - You belong here with us
"Example would be "I need to go home and cook this recipe", which turns into "Let me google the health benefits of Ingredient A", which turns into "Let me check Amazon for some Gluten Free products", which turns into "Let me check the book to see if I can have everything in this Gluten Free product".

The good news is we are here  and will do whatever we can to help each other out.

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Dan, Cajun, et al, that is so me too! Must be an A thing - so glad it's not just me! Focus is my no. 1 priority, the thing I would most like to be able to conquer! I was thinking of producing some focus cards to sell online! I put notes up to myself everywhere but never see them after the first time.
Do you find you watch a film but don't keep up with the plot cos your mind's anywhere but on the film? Drives me nuts. I have to really try hard to focus at the beginning or else i won't know what the film's about!  

On the psychol side, I think it's partly like fear of missing out or something cos I was really bored as a child, understimulated - parents both boring/antisocial/incompatible with me and each other! - so I feel the need to be busy with loads of variety all the time or I get depressed, or I'm afraid of getting bored and depressed.....  
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Dan, Cajun, et al, that is so me too! Must be an A thing - so glad it's not just me! Focus is my no. 1 priority, the thing I would most like to be able to conquer! I was thinking of producing some focus cards to sell online! I put notes up to myself everywhere but never see them after the first time.
Do you find you watch a film but don't keep up with the plot cos your mind's anywhere but on the film? Drives me nuts. I have to really try hard to focus at the beginning or else i won't know what the film's about!  

On the psychol side, I think it's partly like fear of missing out or something cos I was really bored as a child, understimulated - parents both boring/antisocial/incompatible with me and each other! - so I feel the need to be busy with loads of variety all the time or I get depressed, or I'm afraid of getting bored and depressed.....  


Debra,

The movie thing for me depends on my interest in the movie and what I've had to eat that day. I tend to miss details in the plot because I'm focusing on things in the background of the movie or my thoughts on previous scenes. I usually watch movies more than once to fully enjoy them.

I was a VERY active kid, contrary to how you were brought up. I couldn't stop moving until I turned like 12-13 and got a computer. All I did was eat junk food, drink soda and play computer games when I wasn't at school or work all the way through this December. This diet is the first time in my life that I've actually MADE food and not just stopped off somewhere and ordered whatever had the most bacon on it.

My metabolism is crazy fast, so I'm a little lucky I don't weigh 300 pounds based on my diet through my life. I've lost about 3 pounds since starting the BTD 2 weeks ago, but it'll go back up when I start my exercise program and cooking myself full meals.


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My metabolism is crazy fast, so I'm a little lucky I don't weight 300 pounds based on my diet through my life.
It is possible that the only reason your metabolism is so fast is that is the only way the body could burn up the "junk food"...

My metabolism has slowed down significantly since I stopped eating so many avoids...



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It is possible that the only reason your metabolism is so fast is that is the only way the body could burn up the "junk food"...

My metabolism has slowed down significantly since I stopped eating so many avoids...



That's possible, and I'm hoping it slows down a little so I can gain some healthy weight.

Also, I'm not sure if this is just me, but if I have some caffeine I can sit down and do a 1000 piece puzzle start to finish without getting up or doing anything else. I don't do that often, but certain days I'm just incredibly well focused, the other 360 a year I'm a mess!


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Wow! I guess it is an "A" thing!  
I did get bored as a child but not because of my parents...they were very social with friends and family. I was an only child so I learned to be comfortable just playing with my toys and reading alot of books when I had to be indoors.
Maybe thats why I need my alone time. I enjoy visiting my friends and family.....just needs to be when I feel like it... uh-oh, sounds like a brat..


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I'm a type O, and I think there's something wrong, hahaha.

I'm always trying to do more than one thing at a time, and I always start new projects before ending other ones.  But I attribute this to my ADD brain...

I have a lot of trouble organizing.  And I'm always getting ideas for other things because I don't focus well.  And I don't prioritize well, because a lot of things seem equally important.

I didn't really read the other posts, because I was looking for other Os...

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It looks like I am the only one who answered no here...haha! Most people would say that I do too many things, but my DH is an overly ambitious A Explorer and keeping up with him is sometimes a challenge. I am responsible and good worker and a perfectionist, but if I can focus on one thing at a time I will gladly choose that over multi-tasking. It helps keep my stress level down which is needed for this A!  


It's always good to have another productive A around with which to check ourselves and our enthusiasm. (Not an A who is unmotivated - like the A that I live with.)
Living with an unmotivated sometimes irrational A sends me into overdrive exactly when I don't need!


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Wow! I guess it is an "A" thing!  
I did get bored as a child but not because of my parents...they were very social with friends and family. I was an only child so I learned to be comfortable just playing with my toys and reading alot of books when I had to be indoors.
Maybe thats why I need my alone time. I enjoy visiting my friends and family.....just needs to be when I feel like it... uh-oh, sounds like a brat..


Nothing wrong with starting a pseudo-brat club here, Cajun


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Yes!  we must be all from the same litter -  separated at birth.  

I have an  ipod too  -  love it.   I have all kinds of music plus  magazines & books of  all sorts  on it.  (our local library is great for books)

Some times I have to get  away from all the noise. (esp TV noise!)
Even housework and gardening is easier with the right background sound.
Music can be so soothing esp when I can't sleep.

danfromosc85  - You belong here with us
"Example would be "I need to go home and cook this recipe", which turns into "Let me google the health benefits of Ingredient A", which turns into "Let me check Amazon for some Gluten Free products", which turns into "Let me check the book to see if I can have everything in this Gluten Free product".

The good news is we are here  and will do whatever we can to help each other out.

Cheering each other on


...and I need to stop at the "cheering each other on" before I reach the thought "world domination" - for the 10 billionth time!


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Ahhhh...
Purlgirl and Seraffa, you made me smile!!!!
I love being able to hear there are others like me or that at least have minds/personalities that work like mine! yay...you "get" me!!
Its rather refreshing!


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Oh Nadira,
Just saw your post! I totally understand the difficulty in trying to organize and prioritize! Yup, sounds just like me!


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I am always SO GLAD when this particular post "pops up again" and someone who is either an A or has ADD makes a statement about how they function.  I am both an A and have ADD (mild in the sense of no hyperactivity  but can be very distracting).

It is categorically impossible for me to feel the least bit organized unless I make my bed before I leave the apartment.  I have periods of effortless focus where I can accomplish alot in a very short time.  If I am not motivated or have commitments (such as is the case today) I am slow as molasses and I don't utilize my time well at all.  Today I had to clear my mind and make a statement in my head that no matter what I find so interesting or a must do I will leave the house at 3PM (which is what I wound up doing today).  

As much as I wanted to get outside hours earlier it was still so hard to actually walk out the door but once I was in the car and moving and breathing the nice fresh air I was okay.  

To alot of people who don't have these struggles it must seem strange.  

Joy

P.S.  You are all so inspiring.  Perfectly imperect.  That's me.

  

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I voted 'yes'. But I'm not sure if I 'want' to do too many things at once, or if I 'try' to do too many things just because I think I'm 'supposed' to do all those things (at once)!  

I can remember being so overwhelmed in college (decades ago!) when the last 2 weeks of the semester rolled around... distinctly remember standing with my back to the wall in a hallway in tears until my knees just gave out and I slid down the wall to sit on the floor and cry for a while! Not because I was worried about my grades, or had test anxiety, but because it was all hitting at once and I probably needed more sleep and a lot more 'downtime' than I was getting! Didn't connect it to my blood type at the time of course. But it did make a lot of sense later when I read ER4YT!

A few years ago I realized I needed a lot of 'processing time' (think time) in order to be productive. So I set up a 3-ring binder with sections for subjects I needed to think about. Because there were a lot of long-range projects with multiple decisions to make. Because I was concerned that I was going to forget to do/plan something important. It really helped me relax even in the midst of so many projects knowing that I could make lists while I was thinking about something and then just check the list later when I needed to take the next step!

I'm an only child too! My parents are both deceased now, but I had a lot of responsibility as they approached the end of their lives. And then my hubby's father had some years of decline and I had a large part of the responsibility for his transitions from apt to hospital to nursing home and all the care decisions that go along with that. And our (only!) son has been challenging to raise, great kid, smart, funny, but with ADHD and probably mild Asperger's. So all those people got their own section in my binder!

Lately the binder hasn't been working so well... my responsibilities seem to have expanded exponentially even though 3 people died and the son is a senior in hs so not needing the same type of constant care as when he was younger. I'm having a bit of trouble keeping up with everything. This past year my MIL needed a lot of help/care and I now am responsible for a lot of things on her behalf. And so it goes.

But it really is probably just like when I was in college. It's not the actual tasks that are my undoing, it's that they seem to hit all at once and I really just need more sleep and some downtime...

Though... about downtime... and here's my question... does anybody else here notice that when facing a lot of deadlines or things that absolutely cannot be ignored... productivity goes up? But when there is plenty of time that could be spent working on things that have slipped through the cracks... not much gets done? If I could be as productive when there ISN'T a deadline as I am when there IS... that would go a long way toward crawling out of the pit!!    


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I hear you, Veggiequeen

I often think why isn't there more "balance" in my life.  But things seem to need to be handled with different speeds.  Like I posted I can get alot done when I'm motivated or if its a must do situation such as you described.   But I'm sure that's true for many of us.  

When I get going I'm like a "whirling dervish"!

I guess its the ebb and flow of life.  

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Veggiequeen and Joy,
Oh my gosh, you all are describing me!
Ex; I have specific tasks to get done this week. They cannot slide until next week.
What am I doing to make sure I will accomplish my goals? I made a list on Sunday. I could have finished 2 things yesterday but didn't so need to do at least one of them today. I am sooo easily distracted! They will all get done, but probably as you said, with me in a whirlwind, stressed, and at the last minute!
Balance, yes, I need that...now how do I get it?
I don't know how I did everything when I worked full time. Probably because of limited time, no other choice, etc.
I have loved my retirement with plenty of "me" time, lots of choices, flexibility ...yet this has added to my distractions and disorganization!


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Joy and Veggiequeen:  That sounds like me exactly!

I'm retired (long story), so I don't have anything to get me up and out the door in the morning.  So why can't I get all those things done in the morning so that I can gracefully go to my variety of things in the afternoon and evening?

I make lists, and double check appointments in my book and on the 'family' calendar, but it still feels like pulling teeth unless something big is coming up...

Joy, I've even read about this in books:  Sometimes I will be so organized, and get so many things done, and then the next day I get nothing done.  I just can't be the same 2 days in a row...
I guess for one thing, it's hard to do a little of something everyday.  Once I get into something I feel good that I'm in a groove, especially if it's something like cleaning the study/sorting papers.  So I think, well I'll keep going.  Before I know it I've missed lunch and it's almost time for dinner.  Oh, what should I make?  And then I leave the study a mess.

I keep thinking that I'll try to start the day right, get up relatively early, empty the dishwasher, clean the kitchen after breakfast, and then move on to either going for my walk, sort papers, or do laundry.  But then my computer is sitting in front of me, and before I know it...

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To alot of people who don't have these struggles it must seem strange.


I wonder if there are others out there who would like to set up some sort of  support for this.  Maybe we could get a special fb group, or e.mail list.  And we could send hourly, or so, reminders to each other like:  'Have you moved on to your next task?' kind of posts.  Just a thought...

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Nadira,

So you understand the situation as it is along with the rest of us.  I'd love to be supportive but I don't know if I'd be consistent in sending reminders to other people.  

Just reading these posts and knowing that others are contending with these issues is enough for me.

Last night I was looking forward to a nice lunch with a friend of mine and on Saturday seeing George.
I was really depressed and didn't want to do either one of these things.  

Today I got myself  in gear and had lunch (not compliant but if I started in with "oh, I can't eat this or I can't have that" I would have ruined a perfectly nice day.  Actually we wound up talking for hours and it was indeed a very nice day.  I just adjusted my dinner to be more compliant and I felt ok with that.  

My frame of mind shifted and that's one of the main reasons things turned out differently.  Before I went to lunch I listened to a tape that was designed to help me be aware of all the prosperity that the Universe had to offer.  I'm glad I took the time to do this because it "shifted" my mindset from negative to postive.  I really believe that this had a profound effect on how the rest of my day went.

I plan to do something like this again tomorrow before I see George.  Sometimes I just need to take a more positive action myself beforehand instead of relying on just luck or hoping that someone else is in a good mood.  

I just read in the book by Don Luis Ruiz that one of the things most people do is avoid responsibility.
There will be consequences whether or not we take action.  This was something I had completely or conveniently forgotten.  I was always relying on the other persons to respond and then I got to judge their reaction.  Oh, I don't think so.

Joy
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Oh my! What wonderfully understanding things you all have written since my 'brain dump' post a week ago! Soooo many things you all have said are resonating with me.

In my imagination I have this 'ideal' me... do you all know what I mean?

In my imagination, I am always in bed by 11pm, I go right to sleep and wake naturally at 6am, take my 'empty stomach' supplements, cook a lovely breakfast for everyone else in the kitchen I cleaned up the night before(!), unload the DW, start the reload, walk 45", stretch & shibashi, eat my own compliant breakfast, shower & dress, start dinner and cook ahead for the next few days, boot a few loads of laundry and a bit of mending (so no one has a wardrobe emergency), do some 'daily cleaning' (on a well-planned schedule that will ensure my house is always tidy/clean), attend to business matters (also on a well-planned schedule that will ensure I never let anything slip thru the cracks), process papers - sort, file, purge/recycle - also non-paper (computer) business (without getting side-tracked by facebook or dadamo.com), plan/prep lessons/classes (I'm a music teacher), play flute/piano daily, floss daily, smile constantly, feel great, look good...

(background music) "It's just my imagination... runnin' away with me... " (The Temptations)

Oh yeah... and I never make promises I can't keep, I never try to change other people, I'm always encouraging to my family and friends, my taxes are always filed on time, my faith never wavers, I never worry about the future...

... I never spend the day in my bathrobe, all my meals are compliant, I never snack mindlessly, my weight is 'ideal', my skin looks great (for my age!  )...

(pop) the bubble bursts... regains consciousness... looks around... whoops!
Well, maybe nobody noticed my 'flight of fancy', my 'daffy daydream'...


On the subject of support - There is a Fresh Start Monthly group here on this forum and it seems to be incredibly encouraging for those posters who participate. Doesn't look like there is room for more folks there though. But if any of you are interested in starting another 'monthly' group similar to that one, I'd be open to doing that...


"In theory, there is no difference between theory and practice. In practice, there is."
(American baseball player and manager Yogi Berra, or computer scientist Jan L. A. van de Snepscheut, or physicist Albert Einstein - depending on the source...)

Finally doing "the work"!  
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Veggiequeen,
You are funny and I get it! some days are simply more productive than others.

The Fresh Start you wrote about has the most wonderful people posting!  
They are truly inspiring/supportive ...and chatty! It does take a bit of time to stay with everyone's "happenings" but I try.


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ha... due to my DNA-test it seems I'm a super metabolizer ...and really... I feel nearly unhappy while not being able to perform in 7 different things at the same time .... I don't have anymore *the inner judge*...but my mind is commenting situations..yup... but then I don't mind what others think about me...at all....but must say... it's a bit likewise as described in that little film about bloodtypes and behaviour  ....


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I wasn't sure how to answer this.  My first inclination is to answer "no." There's nothing I hate more than multitasking. I like to focus on one thing at a time.  I am always obsessing over something but it's always just ONE thing at a time. This is because I get easily overwhelmed by details. For instance, I went to the library a few months ago and got the sudden urge to read all the Health books in the Health/Nutrition section and felt really unsettled about it because I knew it wasn't possible. Do I really want to do that?  No. Because I would not enjoy all of them. I just wish I could suck up all the knowledge in an instant is all (Is that really asking so much? ). So what I have to do is constantly re-prioritize my life.  I ask myself constantly, "why am I REALLY doing this? How will I feel when I accomplish this? Is it really worth it in the long run?  Am I enjoying this or influencing someone in a beneficial way by doing this?" These are the questions I ask.  I bring myself back to the big picture so I don't get lost in the mindless details and get trapped into doing things that don't really matter.

There's nothing more I like doing than listening to music and pondering things for hours.  Inside my head there is a whole other universe and I like to walk in the deep. It's hard to bring myself back to reality sometimes but I'm such a perfectionist that I make myself get things done. I need to forgive myself more though and I'm learning that perfection is overrated.  If things don't go exactly the way I planned then that's okay because things rarely go the way we plan and usually what happens instead is better anyway. I'm always thinking ahead and I'm very excitable which isn't always a bad thing but it CAN turn into that if I start conjuring up negative thoughts instead of positive ones.

I think blood type makes up a small part of our personalities so we're not all going to be exactly the same.  It's interesting how the Type A tendencies manifest differently in everyone. All of my immediate family are type As and we are all different but I can see how the high production of cortisol manifests differently in each of us. My dad is controlling and demanding when things/people don't match up to his ideals (he takes the inadequacy he feels towards himself and throws the blame on us instead).  My mom is controlling as well when she's been hurt and is stressed.  My sister is the same way.  She spreads herself too thin by actually doing too many active things.  I guess she enjoys it but I know part of her just needs rest which she will not allow herself to have.  My brother is the most laid back which tends towards laziness.  He seems laid-back on the outside but he'll never let his inner anxiety and fear show.  I know it's there just under the surface and it is INTENSE. No outsider would know though. He just doesn't express himself too often unfortunately.  And now I'm digressing.

Anyway, important thing to remember is - we're not meant to do it all so why bother? I'd rather focus on what I'm actually here for than get side-tracked by all these other things. Life is too short for that.  Obviously life throws us curve balls from time to time and we have to find ways to cope with those but with the things we do have control over - sometimes we have to drop things that aren't all that important in the long run.  Good gosh, I wrote too much.
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No wonder I have adrenal burnout!  


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Quoted from san j
We B's are the laziest-appearing lot, for sure.
I think A's would like to relax more - that's really what I meant. They're afraid of being judged for it, internally and otherwise, whereas B's aren't as needful of that "approval"...


I think this is what San J didn't grasp the 1st time around....
I KNOW how "meditation" should go each day.....

*healthily obsessing now*....be reunited with my B guy and sit in the lotus position in front of him, contemplating how he "visualises" stuff, and drooling over how kissable "he" is. *OMMMMMMMMMMmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!*  and visualising those kisses which will follow.................ooooo nirvana




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