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 Do you try/want to do too many things at once?
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cajun
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PrincessMia mentioned straying......I am sooooo guilty of that. I do it with thoughts, conversations, physical tasks and then get annoyed with myself!
I will start many things and finish one...maybe.


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I dunno.
My A-watching reveals that A's really do stress themselves out by thinking they "should" do this and that...they only rarely have the kind of energy that can equal their ideas. But the ideas really can have that "I should"/guilt-inducing quality about them. As if, morally, they'd consider themselves better persons if they could only do this or that.

When they just let themselves be themselves, they can appear lazy, by "O" standards! And they're afraid of being so judged. As if they have an overactive superego/inner judge. They can act like they're trying to lengthen/beef-up their resumés, to impress someone. But they're happier, IMO, when they stretch out like cats in the sunshine, maybe reading something edifying, or perfecting something very fine/refined. Yes, perfecting something. Some detail. A's just have to find their calling, their focus. Once they do, they don't scatter so much, and then they're much more content.

Also: What is "too many things" for an A might be "just right" or  "a slow day" for a robust O.

Sorry. Just rambled. Totally.  


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Yes for overactive superego/inner judge and the need to focus and a call, Sanj, but by my really younger colleague  I was told a caterpiller in the best meaning, as when we believe in what we do we cannot be stopped, bullied or mobbed; and he was always tired before me !! (Blood group AB perhaps explorer  with allergies)  . This provided we had a nice environment to grow up...


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SanJ,
Yes, I do put enormous pressure on myself to do or accomplish everything.
But make no mistake about "being lazy" as the A's I know ( myself included) are far from it! My endurance and stamina are tougher than my hyperactive O hunter husband!
I "stretch out" in the sunshine with my 6 dogs daily and love my alone time to read or cook but need quite a bit of physical activity everyday, also.
( My Dad is an O- Explorer and we share many traits)


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We B's are the laziest-appearing lot, for sure.
I think A's would like to relax more - that's really what I meant. They're afraid of being judged for it, internally and otherwise, whereas B's aren't as needful of that "approval"...

Speaking for myself, I'm working even when I appear not to be, and I think it may be related to the "visualizing" thing? I'm writing an essay in my head, I'm editing someone else's work, I'm listing points for a review -- that sort of thing. But that's B, and this is your thread, not ours. Didn't mean to confuse matters. But glad the "inner judge" thing was helpful for you.


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SanJ,
Its all good.
Yes, that "approval" thing irritates the heck out of me...
Why do A's allow ourselves to care so much about what others think?


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The most tough is our inner judge,
Cajun,
I have seen enough to care a bit less of what others think


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I quit caring what people think of me a few years ago. Now I live to please myself.


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Maria and PrincessMia,

As I get older I find it easier to say "whatever" to others opinions, but I still need to work on not judging myself.


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A decisive yes here.  I have had a "To Do" list for years that I follow quite closely to keep focused yet it seems to get longer and longer.  Staying focused on a task is a very important challenge for me in day to day life.  I always say that if I could only find a way not to have to eat or sleep, I could accomplish everything that I want in this life.  There is just so much that interests me.
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I am also always trying to please others. Maybe it is the idea that blood type a's evolved from those who all had to get along in a little community. In the world in which i live especially in the city it seems more about being independent, tonnes of energy needed, pacing up and down escalators, crowds, smoke, pollution,  getting into confrontations and more o=ish. It has taken me 3 years of doing it to feeling utterly zapped of energy, brain fogging getting on a bus and not knowing how I got to a destination!! Realizing I was an A made all the sense in the world to me. City life makes me want to run to the country and hug some trees and live in a nice quiet little village. Even so maybe an example of me wanting to do too much to 'get away' and then getting stressed about it, going into a brain fog and ending up doing not much at all.
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Oh my goodness, dofo and Blouis......I completely understand and feel likewise!
The older I get, the more I want to escape to a serene, slow paced, natural beauty area of the world. Provence or just about any village across the south of France, the western coast of Ireland, or maybe even around Ashland, Oregon come to mind.
The O's in my family drive me crazy with loud tv, rushing here and there, wanting lots of people around, etc. I get anxious and want to scream sometimes. I absolutely love it when everyone is gone and I get a few hours alone at home.


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I am half and half.  I like alone time and quietness and sometimes i love being with a lot of people and loudness.  If i have too much quiet i get really bored and if i have too much go go go i get aggravated.

My wife is an O gatherer and loves talking on her phone and mostly prefers being around or talking to people.  

I am like prob 60/40 go and quiet and she is like 85 to 90 percent go and 15 percent quiet.
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Yes!

Great thread - I'll have to come back and read it more carefully later       run, run, run

Cajun and Joy really express me pretty well  -   spinning thoughts and overwhelmed

List  are lifesavers ---  In the past I even wrote things down in the middle of the night to get them  out of my head so I could sleep.  Now it's pretty much sticky notes on my purse befor I go to bed.  

I'm going to check out "Bach's  'White Chestnut'  '    

Pilates -  I do an hour class 2 x week and it is wonderful.   I'm stronger,  calmer  and so much  less pain.      
  
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I've had situations lately that have taken me uphill and down dale alot emotionally.   Attention Deficit is thrown into the mix which can be creative but I always need a grounding tool.  

I have an O (based on my obversation and his confirmation of the Universal "O" type blood) relative visiting me  that  doesn't follow the BTD at all.  

I remember a few things I've heard or read along the way (haven't we all??? that seem to automatically pop into my head just when I need it.

One is:  Never rent space to anyone else in your head.  Easily spoken but in family and close relations harder to do.  yet, there it is.  A constant reminder.

Limit the number of people that I need to have approval.  Unchecked in childhood and still causes conflict.  Sound familiar, anyone?   OK so it is part of the human experience perhaps, no?

When I do have extended quiet time I find myself obsessed sometimes with "mentally trying to tidy things up in my mind".  I read one time from a very wise man that there are people who would rather be right than be happy.  (happiness is a relative term according to one's own self)

Inner peace is precious (more now to me than ever) and yet it doesn't mean just getting away,ignoring the situation, shutting down, etc.  It may have to do with involving oneself in interaction with others maybe in a way that takes us out of our comfort zone (to a degree) or stating that perhaps I'll take that under advisement or just being silent.   Hmmm. is an OK response.  

Our pasts will never individually be repeated, the future is yet to evolve and what is left is our present.


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Joy, I understand! I hope you come out feeling better.

     I have often wondered if I may have ADD symptoms. Most of my life I remember
     being easily distracted when trying to focus. I got very good grades in
     school and college but had to isolate myself to study...no noise, people,etc.
     I am even like that today when I'm busy in my kitchen. I don't want anyone
     hanging around or wanting to visit while i am cooking/baking. I do enjoy soft  
     music in the background but no other distractions. This seems to be the only way
     I can finish anything.

Purlgirl, I make lists also but seem to keep re-making them or not being able to cross everything off! I have great intentions but......       


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I don't usually make a list but... If I can in my head scheduled things I need to do, I get to stop thinking about them so I don't feel stressed out about them. The problem is when that scheduled time doesn't work (say for a paper I am working on while in school).  
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I received some of the best advice ever. When I get overwhelmed I sit with my two feet on the ground, sit comfortably and imagine my happy place and deep breathe,  in through the nose and out the mouth. Be sure the air is causing your stomach to rise and not your chest. I cant wait for things to get back to normal. I miss my quiet time. Son has been away often. He has a girlfriend and is happily in love. I am just so happy for him. He finally came home last night and said to me that he is in disbelief how much it hurts to miss someone. I hope his happiness lasts. My husband has been home in my face 24 7 though. I like to get up early and do my chores but he sleeps in. I have to be quiet because he has super ears. When he rises, on goes the tv with noise and violence. I cant stand loud or violence. He always needs rock music in the background when he works or travelling. I like to be with people but people who like the same as me. It seems that since I found myself I am surrounded by wonderful people now.


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Wow, intersting stuff! Yes, my main challenge is focus (and staying calm too methinks!) but the focus thing amazes me how difficult I find it and how easily I zip outta my body/mind at the slightest thing!
I'm a list maker- but sometimes feel I'm drowning in paper! I have so many projects kinda on the go but none completed - argh!
And my semi-partner sleeps in with super ears so I'm creeping around trying not to make noise (but luckily altho he's an O doesn't like loud noise n stuff)!
Helps to read about others experiencing same things.
We should all get together and have an A party! Share tips n tricks n stuff!
Happy project-ing everyone!
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Princess Mia,
I cannot take that loud violent TV either! My O husband and O son don't really understand how much it bothers me. Sometimes I put on my Ipod (earplugs) and sing away while I am cooking dinner...so I can stay sane and focus. They sort of get the message.
Debra,
I make so many lists, rarely get much crossed off and feel like I cannot possibly accomplish all that I want! I am going to try baby steps, a few tasks at a time.
I just know I will be thinking that I really have so much more to do!


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I do the ipod thing too cajun. I make lists as well. I just cannot accomplish what I could 10 years ago. I just have to accept that and not stress myself about it and just do what I can. I think cooking for 2 blood types has a little to do with that.


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You are soooo right PrincessMia!
Stress will kill! I try hard daily to avoid as much as possible.


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A strong 'yes' vote here. I've had too much to do and not enough time to do it in since I was a child. Part of me thinks I have moderate A.D.D, because I get easily sidetracked (which just makes my to-do list longer!) and have trouble finishing the process of thought into action.

Example would be "I need to go home and cook this recipe", which turns into "Let me google the health benefits of Ingredient A", which turns into "Let me check Amazon for some Gluten Free products", which turns into "Let me check the book to see if I can have everything in this Gluten Free product".

That example is an endless cycle for me and happens for as long as I'm awake. I'm 2 weeks into the diet, and hoping that once I start really cooking good food and meditating that my focus issues will fade a bit.


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Danfromosc85,
You just described me!  
I get frustrated with myself because I feel I should be able to focus but.....others in my life tell me that I just do not want to miss out on anything! That could be true as I will listen to conversations going on around me while trying to pay attention to the one I am actually in. Naturally, I get distracted and remind myself I am not a multitasker though I soooo want to be! I have a habit of "going off subject" while in a conversation because I try to include everything related to the subject and have all of these "side stories"!? Is that a symptom of ADD?
Is it an "A" thing?


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Danfromosc85,
You just described me!  
I get frustrated with myself because I feel I should be able to focus but.....others in my life tell me that I just do not want to miss out on anything! That could be true as I will listen to conversations going on around me while trying to pay attention to the one I am actually in. Naturally, I get distracted and remind myself I am not a multitasker though I soooo want to be! I have a habit of "going off subject" while in a conversation because I try to include everything related to the subject and have all of these "side stories"!? Is that a symptom of ADD?
Is it an "A" thing?


I'm glad I'm not alone! I haven't ever been checked for A.D.D so I'm not 100% sure I have it, but I'm assuming it's the reason for my attention issues.

I've actually been able to focus a little better since I switched from energy drinks and junk food to coffee and BTD food. 2 weeks in, so I won't really know until I'm deeper into the diet.

I do the conversation thing too, where I try to listen to every conversation in the room at once, it's something I can't stop myself from doing. If I try to focus hard on one conversation I don't hear anything the person is saying because all I hear in my head is "focus on what this person is saying".


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