OK, I may be only half-AB, but I'm ready to get personality feedback on this type. As many of you know from my blogs, I have a special interest in matters psycho/anthropo-logic when it comes to blood type, as I see the system as a whole...

So, wherever you are, ABs, might you help those researchers who just don't have sufficient sample size to make general statements about you?

Tell us: How you deal with stress, what sorts of activities turn you on, how you act in friendships, relationships, whatever. Those Forum members who have family members, friends, romantic partners, clients, etc, who are AB, pipe in!

ABs: The world is waiting to hear from you!!

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I deal with stress by cooking, walking my dog, and reading these forums. I know my limits and try to accomplish only what I can handle so I don't get overwhelmed. I'm often told that I give out too much information about myself. I go to extremes and study things obsessively. My dad is an AB and we are both similar.  I enjoy wearing off-beat clothing and I think this has something to do with my AB quality. My family and friends say that they never know who will show up.  I'm either extremely friendly or extremely shy.  I'm all or nothing in my relationships. Learning about blood type and personality has helped me to understand why I am who I am.  I can't wait to hear from other AB's!

I have a very hard time being an AB!   I feel A, B, and O's are more concrete.

I feel very misunderstood in life. And alone. I have a really hard time connecting with others, and while so many people in my life feel connected to me (like my type A and O friends, and B relatives) I can't feel it back! Plus I keep people at a distance because if you let them in, they will think I'm weird. With every therapist I have had, I stop going, only to get stuck feeling alone again, having a breakdown, and trying therapy again. This is going on for years.

I get so depressed easily, and when I feel stress and anxiety, I need to run. But a tad too much running, and the running causes stress and anxiety. I am extreme too, and I go through phases.  Sometimes I don't want to see anyone, sometimes I want to see everyone.  Sometimes I clean excessively, sometimes I don't clean at all.  

I wish I was more consistent.  It would make my life much easier!

I have to save this for another time.  I don't know where to begin.  Plus, are you sure want to know the answers to those questions?  

no préjudgements... please...

My aunt is an AB and a very unique person, giving much of herself and asking for nothing. She internalizes stress and she has had some real dingers (death of a child to cancer, retarded child, husband died young) and yet this woman has never complained, said "why me" or cried in front of anyone. Probably the strongest person I know.

She is a lover of music, nature, walking, gardening and conserving. She is happy without even a dishwasher or computer (and she is only in her 60's). In spite of a modest income, health challenges, caring for a disables child and a physical job, she seems to truly enjoy life. She has a calming effect on people and is the real deal, never impressing anyone but listening attentively when the rest of us brag or have problems. I often wish I could be a lot more like her.

Lisa

My Dad was AB+ . He never exercised. He worked in Manahttan, so he would walk from Penn Station to W47th as his exercise until he retired.  I think he used alcohol as his stress buster. Not a good idea with high blood pressure.  He had a stroke at 67.

Shelly...how long have you been following the diet?

I think I'll make mine in installments.  Hehehehehhe.  There's too much in that question to be simple for me.  

I internalize stress for sure while it's happening.  Then I usually find ways to take it out.  Or I probably do have a hard time letting go of it completely.  Replaying things in my mind.  How I would've liked to respond.  And how I should respond.  Many times I just walk away from stress because I don't want to do something that would hurt other people, which is what I really want to do when I'm being pushed. Etc Etc.  When I was growing up though, sports were many times a stress relief.  I actually enjoyed giving and getting pounded in football.  It was invigorating.  Plus the strategy and motion of football was really interesting to me.

My Dad was AB- and I’d bet he was a non-secretor.  He chain smoked and drank to relax.  He was the Boss, at home, at work, around town.  He liked to be in charge.  He was not a complainer.  He would tell me “If you don’t like something, then do something about it or else sit down and shut up.”  There is not an organization in my town that has not had my Dad, my Mom or me involved in it.  I was raised to be a volunteer.  I was encouraged to vote at every election especially the local ones.  He ate healthy at restaurants.  My Mom (O+) was not a good or healthy cook.  He was big on fish, salads, fruits & vegetables.  For fun he played golf, flew a small private plane, fished & hunted.  He was not a patient man.  He’d yell when he got upset.  He was fair and honest.  When he was younger in the Navy he was a boxer.  I also heard when he was younger he liked to roller skate and swim.  That’s all I can think of for the moment.

, RL!  I've said that to my kids (minus the shut up part--I just say be quiet).

My 7-y.o. daughter is an AB.  She's moody and unpredictable and extremely lovable and loving.  Very generous.  Her moods have gotten better since she's been on the Explorer diet.  She's high-strung and I send her outside to be by herself when she needs to relax.  Puttering around in the garden or collecting acorns in a flowerpot will put her in a good mood.

I was unpredictable as a child. I remember having wonderfully high feelings like I was so happy and then very unhappy thoughts like I didn't fit in and I'd try to hide who I really was. My mom also says I was very loving and cared too much about others but I was also nervous and wound up tight like a spring waiting to uncoil. Following the AB diet has helped to keep me balanced and clear. I've been trying to get my AB dad on the diet. He is a nice person and cares about everyone else and is selfless. Almost everyone in my family doesn't understand him but I do.

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I think I'll make mine in installments.  Hehehehehhe.  There's too much in that question to be simple for me.  

No one expects a "simple" answer: Especially on this here topic! On the contrary, great complexity is the rule with AB. I have such respect for all replies, no matter how complicated. You ABs on the dadamo forum are an important source for information on AB personality and anthropologic factors. Please help those of us non-AB's to understand you. My limited experience with ABs tells me that there is often a sense of being barricaded from others, being somehow incomprehensible to others. I want to make it comfortable for you to muse, to share, and to enjoy this thread, just as B's have seriously enjoyed the "B & Individuality" and "B & Individuality II" threads, to the tune of hundreds and hundreds of posts-- bearing in mind that we B's are also a small minority, yet not as tiny as you (B:about 11%; AB:about 3% of world population).

Welcome, welcome, welcome, AB's. We really do love you. Isn't that a marvellous surprise?

My daughter is AB and my two sisters are AB.  They are not much alike except they are stubborn like me.  All are social minded but do not get pushed around.  They are all creative and are leaders.  They all do well with little meat and lots of vegetables.  That's all I can think of to describe them at the moment.  Interesting thread.

My housemate is an AB,Rh negative. I suspect she's a nonnie and a Warrior but she isn't interested in doing the tests to find out for sure, as she doesn't want to follow any diet that won't let her eat copious amounts of chicken, beef and dairy. She lives in her head a lot but has excellent intuition as well as a powerful capacity for imagination and dreams. She tends to be stressed out most of the time (no wonder, living with an O!) and has strong social phobias. Physically she's tall and carries a lot of weight very lightly, but at the moment she's having trouble with her thyroid and undergoing tests for hyperthyroidism and nodules.  

Mr T fits the classic description in the ER4YT. His public persona is friendly, cordial, etc., but his private persona is private & he wants his space.  He does attract others, but doesn't particularly want to.
He's a natural leader, has a good memory, but when he was younger, didn't seem to understand people that were slower than him.
He doesn't like compaining & sometimes thinks when you are chatting, repeating, or analyzing a situation that you are complaining or justifying a wrong position.
Even tho he is brilliant, when you are conversing with him, extraneous info can confuse him...
He's grouchy when tired & extremely nice when well rested. (I guess we all would be.)

My 96.9 year old aunt also is an AB, but fits little of the outward descriptions. She is what I would call a talkative loner.

I was voted most unpredictable in my high school class.  I have found through trial and error that I have somewhat different personalities depending on certain stresses.  I have equated it to sometimes I just don't think correctly...  There have been instances that I make decisions that are so far out of normal character that I am surprised later that I would make that decision...  I have been able to correlate these symptoms to a need for Nitricycle - or Nitric Oxide imbalance.

My daughter just described me as a volcano...  When I get stressed, I internalize it until I either cool off or have additional stress that causes me to blow up.  Once I blow, I'll erupt, then smolder for a while before cooling off.  

There are specific stresses that I have found ways to avoid allowing to build...  For instance, when I get stuck in the daily traffic, I turn on a CD and just get to the destination when traffic allows...

I have learned how to relax the muscles all over the body within a very short time, but this doesn't alleviate the stress.  I garden, cook, or build something to de-stress - when I have the energy to do it...  Catechol helps to reduce the excess adrenaline from stressful situations when I don't have the ability to deal with it any other way...

For most of my adult life, I have been too sick (allergy induced chronic fatigue, toxin overload, digestive and elimination issues, etc...) to really know what I would do for enjoyment...  Even while in college, I went to school, worked, dealt with necessary bodily needs and slept.  I have always had to monitor my internal fuel gauge to make sure I wasn't overdoing.  

I am definitely a problem solver.  If you don't want your problem solved, don't tell me about it, or whine about it...  I get really annoyed when I lay awake at night solving a problem (or wake up with a solution) that someone told me about and when I supply the answer, they say "Oh, I was just talking..." or some such drivel...

This is at least a start...

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she isn't interested in doing the tests to find out for sure, as she doesn't want to follow any diet

she doesn t want to have to stop indulging in your marvelous O nonnie recipes!!!
and she s right!!

I'd be as big as the side of a barn if I ate in your gourmet kitchen, Brig!     

I can relate to the extremes.  And I can relate to Joe.  I had super great health until 35.  Now I feel like an old man.  It was extreme.  

I am also very sensitive.  I'm sensitive to what other people think.  On the other hand, even though I'm sensitive to what they think, aint no way I'll do what they want me to if I think it's wrong.  So I care, but I don't care.  I think Dr. D called it the Enigma.  And I can relate to that.  Same as the sensitive thing.  I'll cry at hallmark commercials and during movies.  And then I can be very insensitive at times too.  Yeah, if I'm annoyed with people.  I try and keep my words to a minimum.  But then there are few times when I get worked up and doing all the talking.  I was really really shy as a kid.  But then I think I have a gift of getting people to talk by asking questions.  I feel like I can put myself in other peoples shoes, or be compassionate better than a lot of people.  I think about their feelings becasue mine are so evident to myself.  I've always been very aware of my emotions and tried to master them.  Like Fear. I lived in fear a lot when growing up, then I had to train myself to get over it.  I just got tired of it.  Now I feel like I'm learning that lesson all over again with all my health challenges.  They were real scary when they first started and I have a hard time overcoming.  

I am very religious and I love nature.  It kills me that I don't hunt like I used to.  Some of the best times in my life were spent in the woods.  But then I learned to adapt and do things I can do.  Like cook.  

I think I'm getting off topic.  I could write for hours.  But everyone would get bored anyways.  I usually say too much when I can type it out.

I much prefer one on one in relationships and friendships. Too many people get in the way of a connection.  

I never liked generalizing per blood type but a lot of what has already been said about AB applies to me as well.

Stress dictated a large part of my life until I learned how to control it. I NEED to do something creative to relieve stress otherwise it will get the best of me. It isn't uncommon for me to lie in bed for two or three hours before I even begin to fall asleep (no matter how tired I am, I've tried everything for it and nothing has ever worked, it's just how I've always been).

I am sensitive to environmental changes. When I work a new job or drive somewhere I've never been I get really anxious because I don't know where I'm going or what I'm doing. It even throws me off when the weather is different than I expected. I don't mind small changes but I have to fully know about it.

And I'm just sensitive. Not necessarily emotionally but I've always been really aware with what situations going on around me and if it isn't good, it definitely affects me.

I don't consider someone a real friend unless I feel as though we've connected in one way or another, of which happens on rare occasion. I often give a lot in relationships and friendships, assuming I will get the same in return yet it rarely happens.

I know I'm crazy, I guess that's what makes me AB.

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lie in bed for two or three hours before I even begin to fall asleep (no matter how tired I am, I've tried everything for it and nothing has ever worked

try white chestnut from Bach flowers, just before
bed; this helps turning down the repetitious thoughts that can circulate in your head.

called the "stuck record", obsessive thinking help!

we aren't crazy britney, only different !!!  

Quick hijack: now listen you guys, I always get accused of cooking rich food and wanting to make everyone fat! Honest, hand on heart, I SWEAR that my everyday cooking is simple, lean and mean. Lots of fresh veggies, lots of diamonds and bennies! I share special occasion recipes here with y'all because they're too good to keep to myself, but they certainly don't get made every day. My biggest splurge most days is homemade turkey/lamb sausage for breakfast, or maybe a bowl of hot oat bran with some ghee in it. So there.    /hijack

Isa, I agree--ABs are different in a good way. We need more of you!  

to my dearest Briggielein ..and ouch you made me  

This thread got me thinking about personality and secretor status. Are there personality differences between secretors and non-secretors?

I've skimmed through here, and with 2 of my children who are ABs, and very different to each other, I don't think there is a simple answer. They are both intelligent, good looking, wonderful loving people, but still very different.But I can see how helpful it is to let it all hang out in this supportive forum, so go for it.

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Shelly...how long have you been following the diet?

Since July, and the diet certainly makes me more functional.  I just found two foods can really calm me down considerably, and need to eat more of it: Lamb and dark meat turkey.  Sharon recommended this to me, and I would be messy emotionally without it.

If I spend a lot of time with any one person, their thoughts, feelings, and speech just rub off on me.  If I don't see them for a few days, I am back to being myself.  ABs are the chameleons, and I have separate lives (my work life, home life, family, and different sets of friends) and I don't like my worlds to collide.  One group of people may think I'm quiet and reserved, while another will think I'm loud and talkative, and they won't believe they are talking about the same person.

I do a lot of jigsaw puzzles, and need to go outside a lot also.  Being productive is a must for my mental health like organizing the closet or kitchen and fixing things that are broken. I too internalize stress and have a hard time calming down for days or weeks from a simple stressor.

I'm a very pleasant person and smile to strangers and all, but I tend to cut people off from my life that cause me too much stress.  I just in my mind, decide, detach myself, and cut the ribbon.  It must sound terrible to all of you but it really removes the stress! And not much else can. Once I cut the ribbon I never come back- it registers in my mind this person is unhealthy for you.

Another thought I had is about exercise. Running stresses me and watching endurance sports is stressful.  I can do walking if I need to get someplace but no running or long workouts. Even looking at people working out in a gym stresses me out.  When I started the BTD, I didn't exercise at all and still lost the weight.  Any other AB's have any thoughts on exercise?

Exercise.  I've been on the extreme ends of this.  Before I had health issues, I exercised regularly.  I'd walk, I'd run some, although that was always real hard for me.  But I figured it was for everyone.  Football, wrestling and baseball were sports I did growing up.  Soccer too.  I was a goalie in soccer.  

After high school, I had times where I didn't exercise much outside of work, but work was physically strenuous.  (Landscaping and then cabinet installing).  I actually loved installing cabinets.  It was fun to take a room and make it into something really nice.  But it was hard work.  They get heavy.  At least the ones I worked with.  

Then I got a desk job and I walked and did push ups and sit ups and everything.  But that half hour every 3 days didn't lose me any weight.  I just gained because I had a see - food diet at the time.

Then the gut issues came and fatigue and I don't exercise at all.  However, I work at a daycare and carry kids around some and even on stairs.  Nothing overly heavy but a bit.  I don't have the energy at this point beyond my job to exercise.  I will do some stretching exercises now and again.  But right now I feel like I'm in recoop mode.  Expending too much energy can be bad on me too.  So I just take it easy.  I went from the extreme.  While I never was a triathlete, I was always very active.  Now, I am very inactive.  It's getting better though.  I did a bunch of shopping with my wife today.  4 different stores.  A lot more walking than I've done in a while.  I think it's the Adrenal Supplements I'm on.  Because it didn't seem to fatigue me.  Tomorrow will tell.  But yeah, I lost a good amount of weight without exercising.  Around 10 lbs.

you guys can simply sit around and be creative!
even devoted!

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you guys can simply sit around and be creative!
even devoted!

Cool! Now I won't feel guilty for never exercising.

My dad (AB) never exercised. Never crossed his mind...he walked a little that was it.

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Since July, and the diet certainly makes me more functional.  I just found two foods can really calm me down considerably, and need to eat more of it: Lamb and dark meat turkey.  Sharon recommended this to me, and I would be messy emotionally without it.  

My Dad (AB- suspect non-sector) also liked lamb & dark meat of turkey as do I.  While everyone else fought over the white meat of the turkey, my Dad & I would grab for the drumsticks.  I’m B- non-secretor, so maybe that’s the link.  Beef also calms me down.

Dark meat here.  I don't mind the white meat, but the dark is what I go for, if I have my choice.  I could eat that all day long.  Well, not that much.

Lamb is still up in the air.  I can't stomach the stuff bought from the store, but I can tolerate this grass fed, pasture raised one we just bought.  And the hamburger I made a Meatloaf out of was technically Mutton.  Which I thought was very good and didn't mess with me.  But I don't know if it makes me feel all great inside.  I do like the way it tastes though.  All of it.  I like any kind of meat for that matter, flavor wise.  At least all that I've had.  Bear was a little sweet for meat but it was OK.

I don't like to generalize within blood type either, but I do seem to find some similarities.  My mother in law and Step Dad are both O's.  And if you say one thing, they have to argue with you.  It's like their purpose in life is to fight.  I think it's nearly impossible for them to agree with just about anything anyone says.  And for them to ever say they're sorry about something, even if they're completely in the wrong, would be a miracle sent down from Heaven above, sent by the creator himself marked urgent.  That's the only way I see that happening.  I really don't like being around either one of them.  I think the O's on this board may be a little more open minded, but some of the O's I know, I like to run from them.  Although I do have an older friend who is an O.  So that is not a complete picture either.  But I think it may have a bit of a bearing.  All that acidity and what not.  Hehehehhehehe  

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Another thought I had is about exercise. Running stresses me and watching endurance sports is stressful.  I can do walking if I need to get someplace but no running or long workouts. Even looking at people working out in a gym stresses me out.  When I started the BTD, I didn't exercise at all and still lost the weight.  Any other AB's have any thoughts on exercise?

Really?!  Maybe because you're a Warrior and lean towards the A blood type with light exercise, and I'm an Explorer where type O's are also found.  I can't lose weight without exercising. Even when I ate only diamonds for 6 months straight.  Plus, I get so easily depressed without lots of exercise.  

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Really?!  Maybe because you're a Warrior and lean towards the A blood type with light exercise, and I'm an Explorer where type O's are also found.  I can't lose weight without exercising. Even when I ate only diamonds for 6 months straight.  Plus, I get so easily depressed without lots of exercise.  

When I was younger (teens and 20's) I used to take ballet, tap and jazz classes all the time.  I never thought of it as exercise because I enjoyed it but it was very athletic movement.  Now, the only real exercise I get is walking my dog and walking  to work and farmer's markets in Manhattan.  I guess I get my exercise just from doing chores and lugging heavy bags of groceries all around the city. So I guess I do get some exercise.

If you ask me, that's a good amount of exercise.

The only exercise I ever do is some walking and the yard and housework I do...  This includes various repairs, etc. on the house and cars...  So there is quite a bit of wiggling that most people don't consider exercise, but I move all day...  The only time I don't is when I simply don't feel good enough to be active.

fine so far no more guiltyness for me either ;) jjjjaaahhhuuiii  
toughy exercise makes me dizzy and foggy... ....and I'll feel terribly drained....   I do need my calmness and being relaxed in body mind and soul ;) .....


btw...I don't think that AB's have problems with responsabilities...in contrary, we allow our stubborness to take those of the others, instead of giving  them back...even worse ;) ... ahem yesss :-/....once a good teacher tought me not to interact coz it isn't up to me to take theirs ;) ...so far I often wasn't aware that it might be that I am taking away a sort of learning effect... so far I often tried to protect friends or clients...instead of releasing them into their own duties..... .....the typical *yiddishe mumme-effect* you see it holds on and on...since decades and it is very hard to cut down this form of *gordnic knot*..... but I've a good trainer.....

I think Warriors generally need less exercise than Explorers. As an Explorer I also need lots of protein to feel at my best.  I get very blue in the face without eating red meat.

With responsibility, I can't handle too much!  I get overwhelmed easily.  I can't plan days or weeks into advance. I sometimes offer to help someone else, but it has to be on my terms and on a whenever-you-get-the-chance basis.

Has anyone been called a fanatic before?  It seems sometimes I study and act on things in an extreme degree.  My sister says I'm that way about my diet.  In some ways it's good, but in some ways it's bad.  Some people don't understand it.  And I think there is a fine line between doing all we can do, and downright letting my passion control me at the cost of maybe hurting others around me.  But then there is the thing that I really don't like how people complain about things, when they're really not trying all that hard to do the things they could to change it.  You know?  I think to myself, I should be doing this, I can be doing this.  I want to do this.  Keep moving in the direction I want to go.  But then there are people that are just like, whatever, I can't do anything about it.  That just don't sit well with me.  Seems like there is always some way to improve, or tweak.  I mean how can we be done learning when there is so much to learn?

ABN... I've heared about this a little bit .....

AbNoWay,

I've been called a fanatic and my AB father, too.  If we are interested in something, we will study it and become immersed in it. I need to find every possible angle on a topic I'm interested in.  The Warrior in me probably makes me even more this way.

Isn't that interesting.

good stress antidotes for me are:  walking or yoga/stretching, and creative activities, but the most important (and most difficult to do) is knowing when to stop thinking.  by that, i mean knowing when i'm at a point when there is nothing i can do to change whatever is stressing me out.  e.g. when i need to wait for someone else to do something or something else to happen.  basically, knowing that there is no point dwelling on something that i have no control over.

activities that "turn me on" usually involve creating or building.  i enjoy writing and playing music, cooking, photography, graphic design, video/audio production and editing.  legos were my favorite toys growing up.  past jobs that i enjoyed were picture framing and working in record stores. i also think i'm turned on by movement and nature.  i play soccer and enjoy running (even though i don't do it as often as i tell myself i'm gonna).  i like bike riding, roller skating, skate boarding, and snow boarding.  i don't do these things regularly, but enjoy them when i do.  i find a sense of freedom when i'm in motion.  i also used to ride a motorcycle, but that was stolen and i never got another one.  i like being in nature:  camping, hiking, beach etc.  i enjoy challenges and solving puzzles, but i don't care for competitiveness.  my enjoyment of sports usually stops once the level of competition gets too high.  i like touching things.  textures are always fascinating and interesting to me.  i enjoy foods that i can eat with my hands.  i like to feel the different food textures on my tongue as much as i enjoy the flavors.  i remember really enjoying my ceramics class back in high school.  i think i liked putting my hands in the clay.

i have friends but am very reclusive and independent.  most of my closest friends have told me that they thought i hated them at first.  in friendships and relationships, i tend to give too much of myself.  by that, i mean i have a habit of giving more than i can afford and end up paying a price in some form or another.  i'm slowly learning to be more selfish.  i spent all of my life wanting to be in a tight circle of friends and to have a "soul-mate" that i would spend the rest of my life with, through thick and thin, but i never felt like i belonged.  i could never figure out where i fit in amongst groups of people.  i finally realized that my "circle of friends" is actually a bunch of different circles of friends.  i no longer feel the need to be part of some sort of family unit or clan.

if you're still reading, i can pretty much relate to everything that has been written here and also in the books and websites about type ab.  especially the "chameleonlike quality" and "enigma".  also, "tendency to feel angry and alienated from others", and "the conflicting desire to be independent and social".  i would describe myself as being intuitive, sensitive, serious with a conflicting light-heartedness, creative, stubborn, determined, shy, loyal, passionate, reliable, patient, spiritual, and i definitely have an addictive personality.  achieving balance is my biggest challenge.  i usually feel like a walking conflict.

Hey, it's my long lost brother, or sister, or whatever you are.  But I can totally relate to everything you just said.  It is bizarre.  

the same for me akisake....as ABN says...bizarre.... but since I got older, no more feelings likewise being a walkin conflict ;) that stopped when I realized to become more aware to a  true observer instead of jumping into any kinds of feelings... most of the time those feelings were only too much of this and that...instead of adapted to... :-/ nonnielike.. I am a very intense personality... :-/ ....btw the explanation of a fugue isn't that far away as P.D. described us the explorers ;) ...

the biggest problem is, might be...was... not to stay fixed in a dogmatic comportement...for me....this is called *tolerance* I guess.... ;)
but when teaching BTD... what can I be then....enthusiastic ....I nearly can't stop onece into the material things... .....but often people got me wrong and can't believe that this form of diet is that helpful and cry after me being a *dogmatic character* which isn't no more true coz I've learned to do the differences.... ok..ok... might be     :P  coz I don't see myselve objectively...

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  Maybe because you're a Warrior and lean towards the A blood type with light exercise,

Nope. It's all about the genes...   not the blood..

We Warriors need our rest...for heavy battle

......

I enjoy the outdoors in a different way then my friends,when i explain my feelings i often hear the term Hippie,which I have no problem with at all,so be it.
I love to Bake,also because i have a major sweet tooth. Iam drawn to the beach as far as hobbies i Love music all types.  I am an extreme person
as far as dealing with stress iam a inward person def. I think and think and think about stuff,often leads to insomnia ive had since i was younger,but at the same token it gives me a greater appreciation for people,i really try to understand them and there actions. The aged old Y? lol i remeber being a little girl and "why"? was my fav. question,i could ask 15xs in under 5 mins. It often became my immediate response to the following answer    lol im not 3 feet tall with wondering eyes and a sense of innocence so i can no longer ask q's this way nemore or else i would.

Hi Kelly Jean,

I can relate to your feelings about being extreme and always asking "why".  I am from NY also. It's nice to see another AB here.

Quoted from ABJoe

I have found through trial and error that I have somewhat different personalities depending on certain stresses.  I have equated it to sometimes I just don't think correctly...  There have been instances that I make decisions that are so far out of normal character that I am surprised later that I would make that decision...  I have been able to correlate these symptoms to a need for Nitricycle - or Nitric Oxide imbalance.

Ha.  That's DH.  Nitric Oxide, you say?  Hm.

Quoted from Mrs T O+

He's a natural leader, has a good memory, but when he was younger, didn't seem to understand people that were slower than him.
He doesn't like compaining & sometimes thinks when you are chatting, repeating, or analyzing a situation that you are complaining or justifying a wrong position.
Even tho he is brilliant, when you are conversing with him, extraneous info can confuse him...

That's DH too.  It might be typical of men who rank at the genius level though.

No, DH isn't an AB, he's just got the B part.  But it's still him.

My AB little one, who just turned 7 last week, is a lot like what y'all describe.  It's wonderful to read things like this because it helps me understand her.

Oh, and ABNW....toting around children all day is great exercise.  

Quoted from Ribbit

That's DH too.  It might be typical of men who rank at the genius level though.

My AB- Father was the leader.  He didn’t like complaining. He was also brilliant.  I’m B- and I had to learn to slow down and explain myself more clearly for other people.  My son B+, who is smarter than me, has no problem with it.  He naturally finds common ground.  He has a friend, 5 yrs older than him that reads at a grade school level.  My son says this friend plays a mean game of chess.  They’ve been friends for almost 10 years now.  It started as using someone who could buy beer.

some after thoughts:
here are a few things about myself that annoy me.  i am very gullible and trusting.  i am quite easily influenced and tend to believe people without questioning their words or actions.  i also take what people say to heart, which often leads to disappointment or frustration...i am too serious most of the time.

i am extremely detail oriented.  i always read instructions and directions, and follow rules.  it drives me crazy, but i can't stop myself from being like this.  when i am doing art projects, i will spend insane amounts of time on tiny details that i doubt anyone will even notice, but in the end i feel better knowing that it is complete...i can be obnoxiously thorough.

i am mostly a quiet, reserved person.  i tend to internalize my emotions.  i think it's because i want to be sure that i express them correctly.  what usually happens is, i bottle them up and explode, and end up being completely misunderstood...which is why i was keeping it all inside in the first place...i think i think too much.

on a more positive note, i can be abundantly outgoing and playful...even talkative, in the right situations. (not just alcohol, although it helps)

oh, i also like the dark meat (turkey).  when i was a kid, my mom and i were the only ones in my family that liked the dark meat.  one thanksgiving, we both got sick and everyone blamed it on the dark meat.  i was vomiting for days, and i stopped eating the dark meat after that.  for most of my adult life i have been vegetarian...i tried a vegan lifestyle, but that only lasted for about 1 year.  for the past 4 or 5 years i've been pescatarian.  this was before i was following the btd (intuition at work).  once i researched the btd and found that turkey was a beneficial, i decided to give it a try after all these years.  i had my first holiday turkey in over 15 years this last november...i still prefer the dark meat.

Quoted from Sharon

Hi Kelly Jean,

I can relate to your feelings about being extreme and always asking "why".  I am from NY also. It's nice to see another AB here.

      Hi Sharon,
   It's great to be able to understand and share this information. I am new to this very site but iam taking it all in ;rapidly.  Thankful to have found this site.  I see you have been on this site for a while   well its nice to have another AB compainion!  Especially knowing we are indeed rare.  I look foward to hearing and conversing more with you in the future

welcome!

Quoted from 7945

      Hi Sharon,
   It's great to be able to understand and share this information. I am new to this very site but iam taking it all in ;rapidly.  Thankful to have found this site.  I see you have been on this site for a while   well its nice to have another AB compainion!  Especially knowing we are indeed rare.  I look foward to hearing and conversing more with you in the future

This site and diet is very welcoming. The diet has helped me lose weight, improve my mood, get off medications, and understand myself better.

Quoted from akisake

some after thoughts:
here are a few things about myself that annoy me.  i am very gullible and trusting.  i am quite easily influenced and tend to believe people without questioning their words or actions.  i also take what people say to heart, which often leads to disappointment or frustration...i am too serious most of the time.

i am extremely detail oriented.  i always read instructions and directions, and follow rules.  it drives me crazy, but i can't stop myself from being like this.  when i am doing art projects, i will spend insane amounts of time on tiny details that i doubt anyone will even notice, but in the end i feel better knowing that it is complete...i can be obnoxiously thorough.

i am mostly a quiet, reserved person.  i tend to internalize my emotions.  i think it's because i want to be sure that i express them correctly.  what usually happens is, i bottle them up and explode, and end up being completely misunderstood...which is why i was keeping it all inside in the first place...i think i think too much.

on a more positive note, i can be abundantly outgoing and playful...even talkative, in the right situations. (not just alcohol, although it helps)

oh, i also like the dark meat (turkey).  when i was a kid, my mom and i were the only ones in my family that liked the dark meat.  one thanksgiving, we both got sick and everyone blamed it on the dark meat.  i was vomiting for days, and i stopped eating the dark meat after that.  for most of my adult life i have been vegetarian...i tried a vegan lifestyle, but that only lasted for about 1 year.  for the past 4 or 5 years i've been pescatarian.  this was before i was following the btd (intuition at work).  once i researched the btd and found that turkey was a beneficial, i decided to give it a try after all these years.  i had my first holiday turkey in over 15 years this last november...i still prefer the dark meat.

I can relate to everything very much in there.  Although I seldom do an art project that recieves a ton of detail.  In fact, I'm putting together 3 pinewood derby cars  for my family and it's irritating me.  One of the problems with it is, there are no perfect instructions on how to put them together to be as fast as everyones else.  Everyone has their little tricks they do to the axles.  And if I don't read it in a manual, I'm lost.  That's one thing about me, I'm not very innovative.  In many ways.  And then in some ways I am.   But probably moreso not.  I'd rather have instructions on how to do something and then just do it.  

Quoted from Ribbit

No, DH isn't an AB, he's just got the B part.  But it's still him.

My AB little one, who just turned 7 last week, is a lot like what y'all describe.  It's wonderful to read things like this because it helps me understand her.

Oh, and ABNW....toting around children all day is great exercise.  

Ribbit,

How is your relationship with your little AB?  With my A mom, I understood all her perspectives on everything but she never got mine.  I am now learning to accept that she may never...that she just can't, because AB understands A and B, but A may not understand B too well.  My B father didn't understand me either, although me being AB I understood his B all too well.

lucky them!!
at least someone in the family understood!!

After reading this thread I am seriously starting to doubt my being an A-! I feel like I've somehow found all my long lost relatives. This topic is making me extremely emotional for some reason!

Aw, Arminta, welcome home!    Many of us have found a home here and feel closer to people we've never met--only in word--than our regular friends and certainly our families.  It may be a genotype thing you're identifying with.  Or simply the fact that people are bearing their souls.

Shelly, I grew up around Os and As.  We have a lot of strong wills in my Scotch-Irish-German-Dutch family.  A lot of parting company with people you don't agree with.  I mean, parting company with people who don't agree with you.  lol  My two best friends for years and years were Bs.  And then I married a B.  I didn't know this until later, all that about their blood types.  Everybody loves a B (even if nobody understands them)!

It didn't take me long after we were married to start thinking, Oh my goodness, what have I done?  The mood swings were drastic and unpredictable.  It was a hard time for me.  I didn't know what he was so angry about, and so with my typical victim mentality, I assumed I was to blame.  In fact, the combination of bad food allergies and simply being a B was to blame.  (I'm not B-bashing, I'm just pointing out that my particular B is very moody, and it seems to run in the blood type, so to speak.) I had to learn, when he was "in a mood" to keep the children away from him, particularly the AB, or there would be some words exchanged and some tears shed (by the little AB and perhaps me as well).  Taking corn out of his diet was a great start.  Soy followed a couple of years later, and then chicken.  (He can eat chicken occasionally now with no trouble.)  So the BTD helped a lot, and the GTD (Nomad) helped even more.  

Things were really rough for a long time with Elizabeth.  After the colic....I wasn't sure I could ever think positively about her.  But things got better and I really did love her--only the parent of a colicky baby can understand how desperate and hopeless it feels.  She was really, really moody too.  She is what Dr. William Sears would call a High-Needs Child.  Very demanding, very emotional, very extroverted.  And boy did I get the parenting advice, just like when she was colicky.  

I have realized that ignorant people are always full of advice.  Gotta love human nature.

At any rate, I can't say I've ever really understood her, but Isa told me about a book called "Please Understand Me", which I got on ebay and soaked it all up.  I began to see that I don't have to make her a little version of me--indeed I can't and shouldn't.  God gave her a very special temperament, and I'm going to work with that temperament rather than trying to squash it.  Now that I have read about how the extroverted mind works (do, then learn from what you did) and the introverted mind works (learn/think about what you're going to do, then do it), I can help teach her.  Before, I'd lecture her about looking before she leaped.  Now I can see that her temperament requires her to learn from what she already did.  No, I can't say I really understand her.  But I can understand where she's coming from, and I have to constantly remind myself that her world as an extroverted AB looks very different from mine as an introverted A.

Being on the correct diet helped a lot.  Whereas she used to be either extremely happy or extremely sad, her diet has leveled out all those overwhelming emotions and she's mostly cheerful, sweet, generous, creative, inventive, helpful and a bundle of turkey-induced energy.  I love her to death.

So sweet so wise you and I believe also your daughter , Leanne and lucky we all for Dr D deep knowledge !

I have not read this thread about us,

I can add that DR.D describes ABs very well in LR4YT. Anyway we are individual with differents experiences in the life.

With BTD I not only improved my heatlh, also the emotional balance (in the past, at my teen, I was too MUCH sensitive about external problems, and usually it's caused me unhappies in the past)

I can enjoy with a lots of people, parties, etc (like Os) but also I need my time to be alone....Meditation is something so important in my life...
I don´t like extreme exercise, but I love to walk a lot and hiking, I love the nature places !!!

I can´t tolerate injustice, maybe like my SWAMI told about Teacher´s motto: "all you need is love"

Quoted from Shelly

I have a very hard time being an AB!   I feel A, B, and O's are more concrete.

I feel very misunderstood in life. And alone. I have a really hard time connecting with others, and while so many people in my life feel connected to me (like my type A and O friends, and B relatives) I can't feel it back! Plus I keep people at a distance because if you let them in, they will think I'm weird. With every therapist I have had, I stop going, only to get stuck feeling alone again, having a breakdown, and trying therapy again. This is going on for years.

I get so depressed easily, and when I feel stress and anxiety, I need to run. But a tad too much running, and the running causes stress and anxiety. I am extreme too, and I go through phases.  Sometimes I don't want to see anyone, sometimes I want to see everyone.  Sometimes I clean excessively, sometimes I don't clean at all.  

I wish I was more consistent.  It would make my life much easier!

Shelly,

You're not alone. I am A negative and I feel the same way. I joined an RH negative network online because so many other people who are RH negative seem disconnected as well. I also have a formal diagnosis of autism. Being type AB you have many gifts. I like the information given on your type in ER4YT and LR4YT. Just know that thereare others here ( myself included) who share your experience about thinking differently.

woow Ribbilein, we need muchmore mums of your quality .... .....

btw... if WE, the AB's once upon the times begin to understand that it might be very healthful to have an eye to that world of a so called *observer* and won't relate too much in behaviours of * I have* and *I am*..... so we get the chance for a lot of other
and better understanding how this world really works;..... the i-concept is only a concept.....
and always needs a verb of..... sometimes it's quite fitting in not *interacting*.....

so far the books from Jean Klein are much finer to understand... this is called *advaita*......

This is a good thread.  

Ribbit, fwiw, I'm more of a learn/ think about what you're doing/ then do kind of a person.  In most cases.  For some reason in cooking I just do.  So, I guess maybe I'm both.  But I usually have a hard time doing anything without some knowledge of what the heck to do.

Quoted from VictoriousLiving

Shelly,

You're not alone. I am A negative and I feel the same way. I joined an RH negative network online because so many other people who are RH negative seem disconnected as well. I also have a formal diagnosis of autism. Being type AB you have many gifts. I like the information given on your type in ER4YT and LR4YT. Just know that thereare others here ( myself included) who share your experience about thinking differently.

Hi Meghan,

It never occured to me that Rh- people may feel disconnected collectively, and just the feeling of being detached from society.

Ribbit,

Wow.  That must be her! I am extroverted and really have to "do" things to actually learn from my mistakes, even if I have been warned not to.  I then replay things in my mind for a few months, but when I learn not to do something, I learn it very well. I simply can't process things any other way.  I understand what others are saying intellectually, but I really can't understand it emotionally.  There is some sort of disconnect.

Chicken made me delirious as well. It is so amazing though, how turkey is like medicine (and the darker, the better).  It makes me really calm and together. Plus, I think you became a mother at my age exactly if Elizabeth is 7 yrs old, and I can only imagine without all this knowledge about blood types how stressful trying to bond with her might have been.

You have given me much to think about in relation to me and my A mom....I have to reread and reread your post again because of the way I process things as an AB .  Thank you!  Your story clarifies so much.

often the intp's in general may feel disconnected.... but then have an eye on that issue, we are all having E and I- personal traits in us... as we do only show up one personality whith which we deal and work with the world but in reality there are muchmore in us then only one personal traits...and this isn't be be seen as unhealthy nor to be expressis verbis seen as *splitted mind*....

Shelly, glad to help out.  I will add more as I think of it.

Ribbit, How does your B husband and AB daughter get along and how do your other B and A children get along?  I have many B's in my family and two AB's. I just blood typed my cousin with the Eldon card from NAP. We typed him as B+ and I did the Genotype measurements on him.  He's a Gatherer with many of the tell-tale characteristics. I seem to be surrounded by many B's! Their B balance just highlights my AB extremes. It takes a lot of patience and perseverance to understand.

This is just my family--I have no idea if it's typical.

Not counting the baby (because everybody loves her--she doesn't steal toys or knock down masterpiece block castles...yet), when I remove one party--it doesn't matter which one--it's quieter.  Every so often the AB will say, "Mama, you just don't understand.  I'm going to ask Daddy."  But it's just as often that she will say, "Daddy, you don't understand.  I'll go ask Mom."  It's a learning process.

DH and the AB go back and forth.  Some days are good, others aren't.  Most of it has to do with DH's moods.  I can read them more easily than the children can and will try to get them involved in doing something if I know he needs to eat or whatever before interaction happens.  Again, it's a learning process.

And when I'm not feeling well?  DH steps in and gets them busy AWAY from me while I enjoy sipping a cup of hot coffee and flip through a few pages of Organic Gardening and plot (pun intended) what I will plant this spring.

As a child, I was often the mediator in my family. If my B mom or B brother fought with my AB dad or each other, I'd try to make them get along.  I can see all points of view in an argument and sometimes that doesn't help with my own decision making.

do the MBTI test or others like the  enneagram; be aware that you are using patterns to
deal with your outer world;.... this is very important in not getting confused with certain patterns we also do share... so far here I prefer to work with the enneagram coz it shows muchmore also our profiles by our *wings* and this can be very heavy if our *wings* are tougher influencing then our choosen psychogram.... .....
so Shelly have an eye onto your NT'ness... we lack a bit the F-side.... so far we have to develop some more skills here as well.. ...and the earlier...the better ...

Often descision making is done by belly feelings and often those are sooo right... but when we interact with our scepticisme and T-side... we get lost,...dearest Sharon...

Thanks, Amazone...I'll take those tests and see what insights I might find. I'm glad to have many great friends and helpful people who understand on these forums.

welcome Sharon, I think all of us do need eye openers, and both systems are such tools I remember when I begun....

Quoted from Amazone I.

so Shelly have an eye onto your NT'ness... we lack a bit the F-side.... so far we have to develop some more skills here as well.. ...and the earlier...the better ...

Often descision making is done by belly feelings and often those are sooo right... but when we interact with our scepticisme and T-side... we get lost,...dearest Sharon...

Isa, does "F-side" refer to feelings?

jaou...jaou....

I came back yesterday after a month away and was really wow'ed by the searing honesty and focus. So glad you AB's are interested in having an enclave as we B's do... Your input is sorely needed and ... lovingly welcome.

Oh, also: Where are the AB Nomads?

When I have my leg space on the "andric" setting, I'm a Nomad.  If it's neutral, I'm an "Explorer"  I'm a teacher/explorer/nomad.  According to the book, I'm a teacher. According to swami I'm somewhere close to a explorer/nomad.  Much of inputting into swami I'm a nomad.  So maybe I am one.  I don't know.  I don't really care which "type" I am any longer.  It's annoying to try and figure it out.  I'm an AB with genetic tendencies toward all three of them.  Hehehehehe.  So, to answer your question.  I'm partly Nomad probably.  Hehehehehehehehee!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Raquel is an AB Nomad.  

nope.....she s swamied teacher now

Thanks, Lola.     Nice to see Raquel is a teacher.

Quoted from JJR

I'm an AB with genetic tendencies toward all three of them.  Hehehehehe.  So, to answer your question.  I'm partly Nomad probably.

I can relate. As a B, I've always felt a phenomenal affinity with Nomadism. I haven't done Swami, but I'm quite clearly GT-6. I, too, sense that the B's are a family/clan, and some of us are Reactive, some Thrifty, and some Tolerant... Something like that.

aaahaaa.... ...as usual... sorry dearle can only relate as an explorer in YOUR case as well...he-he-heee.. ........ foooorrr suuurrreee...

Isale, ma copine: je ne t'ai pas bien compris...Tu es Explorer; moi je suis Nomade, non?
Oh, anglophone AB's, forgive us our little tete-a-tete...sans circonflex, pardonne-moi...
(bises suisses)

It's okay, I think Isa's a little bit of everything, San J.  

Yeah, I think explorer is probably the closest.  But I'm not fretting about it any longer.  But I think I figured my space to be neutral last night, and that puts me as an explorer.  Which I've been eating more meat lately to see what it does.  I take lypo gold to help it go down and it seems to be working.  Needing less other supplements.

I'm getting die off symptoms with much less probiotics and things than before.  My body is in killing mode and it doesn't even need a whole lot of help to be doing it.  I'm like skipping supplements at times to slow down the process.

san(t)jle

and ya know... : I am the one I'll become....

Where are AB's on the Myers-Briggs and/or Keirsey and Enneagram scales? These probably don't correlate, but I'm just making conversation  

ABN frère...don't worry..... I think a teacher has more relations to his/her A-side and the nomade is more prone for the B-side...so far explorer's are the most weird-ones... .....perhaps shouldn't we be here .....

In terms of AB-possible Genotypes:

Warrior     ENTP  Ne Ti
Nomad     ESFP   Se Fi
Explorer   INFP   Fi Ne
Teacher    ISFJ    Si Fe

The first two functions are noted after the MB type.  The Genotypes are in order of ABness as far as I could guess.  Overall, you get emphases of Sensing over iNtution, and Feeling over Thinking.  The judicial function (F/T) is introverted and the interpretive function is extroverted.  Here Teacher is mainly being included for completeness as some AB's might have Teacher as a Second or Third Principle Component.

well Paul! I do say!
that clears it all right up!!!

and then remember that we justamente do the opposite of our endings.... as being introverts; sorry I don't think that explorers are the infp's... often isfp/j is confonded with infp/j's...

warriors as ENTP/J's yep here I can see les choses ....the nomads I saw here are almost ESFP/J's or isfp/j's and the teachies I'll found em merely onto the infp-side,
ENFP/J's almost hunters....ooh Isa dont' commit the same error in classifying...sorry folks I apologize..... .... I remember...Mflowerli is an ENFP and she's a warrior ....tsk..tsk....but ..but...but.... it might be that we will score something different when we come along the integrative way of the enneagram...so far no more no less it might be that we are all hippeling around in our transitory issues ........I think the hardest things to hear when you meet an old friend not havin seen over years and he/she claims: hey you didn't change at all since.... .......

My mother is an AB and I'm still waiting for a sister of mine to use the blood typing test she got in the mail. They are both crazy! I mean that in a loving way. They are sensitive, emotional, intuitive (which I am too maybe it's an A/AB trait- we make good psychics lol), somewhat lazy, dreamer type. I'm not saying all AB's are like this... but this is the things in common my mom and sister have. I would be so surprised if my sister wasn't an AB.

They both feel misunderstood by the world, an outcast, not really close friends with anyone other than their own minds. Wow, sounds like I'm picking on them. That's not what I am meaning at all though. They are both pack rats and hate to clean.

Good qualities? Very creative. Love arts and music.  

your dad s BT?
a B?

Well this is where I need to explain...

My dad... is actually my step dad and is not my sister's father or my father. And yes he is a B.

My biological father was an A and drank way too much and ate a lot of meat his whole life and died at the age of 52 a couple Christmas' ago of a heart attack. Go figure!

My younger sister has a different father than me and we don't know his type. I am the second oldest of 5 children. My young brother Andrew is an AB like my mom and his dad is the B blood type. My younger brother is a B like his dad. My older sister who has the same mom and dad as me... I'm guessing she is either an A or AB... than again could she be a B with an AB mother and an A father?

no...she d be an AB or an A

on second thought, yes, she could be a B
if B from your mom and a possible recessive O gene from Dad came together.

if Dad were an Aa.....no B would be possible

it s like math!
http://www.biology.arizona.edu/human_bio/problem_sets/blood_types/btcalcA5.swf
.

Interesting! I was thinking... maybe... but wasn't totally sure. For her I wish I could make her a B, she sure does love her cheese! Even better if she was a Nomad! Of course I highly doubt it and she is most likely a AB like my mom.