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I know the garden is a comfort to you and I'm sure Sarah would be glad to know she's sharing it in spirit with your beloved Ollie.
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GOING to start doing something about this wild and woolly garden this month.  It has finally cooled down enough here.  It is all very overgrown, but while watering it yesterday I thought, well, it is overgrown, but beautiful in its wildness.  I think Sarah would approve.

What I do feel bad about is that her dedication sign long ago fell down in a storm, and the chain broke.  I need to get a better stand for it, instead of hanging it from a tree.  Meanwhile, it sits in the dark garage and every time I spy it there, I think, oh, this is really dishonoring Sarah, just having the dedication sign for her garden sitting there among the mundane clutter.  But, knowing her, she'd understand.  She always accepted me for the procrastinater that I am  ...still, gotta get about the business of getting that little back sign up, too.


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Just wanted to pop round to say that I FINALLY put a border around Sarah's memory garden this weekend.  Boy howdy, gave my hamstrings quite the workout while I was at it, too.  Nothing like loading and unloading 163 brick pavers and then loading, unloading, loading, unloading 75 more TWICE because you realized, ooops, won't be needing that second load, back to Lowe's for the third time today to return 'em!  Oy vey.  Da pain, da pain!

Anyway, if I could impart just one item of wisdom about gardening to the masses, other than the importance of using native plants to promote xeriscaping, I would say:  When in doubt, slap a border around it!  A border makes even the most neglected, overgrown garden look soooooooo much better!

I got a bunch of brick pavers on clearance sale and did that whole thing on Saturday.  Then meant to get, like, 25 40-lb bags of soil and as many bags of mulch on Sunday and git 'er all spiffed up, but due to the aforementioned HAMSTRING situation (non-secretor ALERT!), it was contraindicated.  Will tackle that at some unspecified later point.

Anyway, she (Sarah's garden) is looking SO much better with the borders.  It is a little tad bit "busy" looking, almost like a model train track or something *lol*, because of the configuration of the garden, but still sooooooooo much better than the pre-border look.

Quite a while back now, I put brick pavers between my front sidewalk and the line of Mammy Crotons I have in the front yard.  Those I actually dug into the ground and they look really right and good there, and that whole thing (the plants and the bricks) helps with a previous problem of a lot of the sandy soil washing into the sidewalk every time it rains.  At that time, I also placed more of the bricks along either side of my front walkway to the house.  I couldn't believe how much better doing all that made my front yard look.  It was then I first discovered the wonders of landscaping borders.  And bricks, I'm all about brick borders, I can't stand tacky, cheap plastic landscaping borders.

Anyway, so I finally did SOMETHING in the way of maintaining and fabbing up Sarah's garden a bit.  I will never totally neglect it or forget about it...or her.

Next thing is the soil and mulch.  Then a new stand for the little dedication sign that predictably got blown down from the tree branch it hung from during one of our global-warming-monsterfied storms.  AND a new plant here and there to replace some of the duds.  I'm really not happy with some of the plants, such as the butterfly bushes.  I don't think they like the central Florida clime or something.  And they aren't really bushes, they are more like delicate perennials.  I am NOT an annual person and there are very few perennials I even have the patience for.  Give me a HARDY plant that will live for years and years (which you would think "perennial" would denote, but really they are "wusses" (lol), too, just a hair less wussy than your annuals).  Matter of fact, I'd rip out a bunch of the perennials I selected and put in other stuff if I had my druthers, but, dang it, can't find those druthers anywhere *lol*.  Seriously, I am the type who, once something is alive, I respect it's right to be there, if that makes any sense.  Otherwise there are two bougainvilleas that would have long since been history in the front yard.  But since they were there before I got here, and since they survive droughts and everything else, I have to respect that.  So, *sigh*, I guess I'll have to let the butterfly bushes that are still alive stay, unless they look at me cross-eyed or something.  Just give me a reason, butterfly bushes *lol*.  Anyway...that's the latest action on the Sarah's garden front.  Finally slapped a border around the whole enchilada!

To reiterate, here is the Gardening Tip of the Day:  When in doubt, slap a border around it!


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Thanks!  The strings (as in, ham) are recovering enough that I'm considering having a go again this weekend and getting into new soil and mulching mode.  We'll see, though.  The dog needs some attention and it could be a dog park weekend, which she hasn't had in eons.


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Garden News:  Very excited about the garden, it is finally "getting there", worthiness-of-Sarah-wise!  I worked really hard on it this weekend and it was like suddenly it feels like the "final touches" are coming together, and you know how sometimes the final touches make the whole thing?  Well, dat's what's happening here!  I spent all kinds of money I don't have (bad) on some beautiful stuff that I fell in love with (good).  There were these two ceramic little planters that are glazed with these absolutely gorgeous mixtures of colors.  I kept putting them back on the shelf because they were too expensive, but then I kept finding myself going back to that aisle and pining for them, thinking, "these COLORS would be perfect for the garden....*sigh*".  Well, of course old no-sense here ended up charging up a storm, but, dang it, I'd do it again!  A garden is about love and if you find something you absolutely LOVE then you should try your dangdest to get the item into the garden.  So, anyway, I bought these two pots and this little wrought iron (or faux wrought iron, anyway, who knows what it is...probably not iron...anyway, moving along...) item that looks like a miniature loveseat but instead of seats it has two little indented hole thingys for planters.  The two ceramic ones fit in perfectly, so I took that as a sign from on high that I was to buy both the planters and the loveseat immediately, do not pass GO, do not collect $200.00.  I just knew that if I waited until I actually had any actual money in the actual bank, those particular planters would be gone and I'd never find COLORS like that again.  I'm all about color.  Anyway, so I get this into the garden and, I mean, it is THE highlight!  What I love about how the garden is coming together is that everything is very small-scale.  My gazing ball, for example, is not a true gazing ball (the things are HUGE), but a paperweight from Pier One with a neato torpedo faux-wrought iron stand, so it is to scale with the small size of my little garden area.  The benches I made are simply flagstone pieces on top of overturned flowerpots, so they are quite small, too.  And now this little miniature loveseat planter holder with the two pots that I'm so taken with (into which I planted some "purple heart", which are these AWESOME perennials that you cannot kill and that you can just clip and stick into dirt and they grow new ones!) just somehow makes the whole garden.  OH!  AND I bought this little butterfly trellis thing that I hung the little dedication sign on, and it fits PERFECTLY and it, too, is low and small scale, whereas before a storm blew it down, the sign was hung waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too high up on a tree.  I don't know, but everything just seemed to come together perfectly yesterday.  Today I'm going to the "rock place" to get 2 to 4 more green glacier rocks (I LOVE these, they are GORGEOUS, with such a cool, calming color that perfectly resonates with my house color of "delancy green", which is a very, very pale green with lots of white in it, like I guess a pale sage green) to place in one certain spot and then I will pronounce the garden DONE! for the moment, but a garden is never, ever truly "done", it is always a process.

Anyway, it is getting there!  I was suddenly looking at it yesterday like...did I do this?  With my back?  Naaah, couldn't be...and it only took a mere 9 or so months *lol*!!!  I'm just very pleased with it suddenly!  When I was a child, I loved rock gardens, and now I have a rock garden in my own yard!  Wu HUUU!  Rocks rock.  I also put a brick border around it, like I said earlier, but I changed it now so that it is one continuous thing (except for the one tiny bit on one side of the "north doorway" (lol) to the whole garden, which has it's own little brick border.  ANYWAY:  good stuff.  The feeling I wanted to create with the garden is there:  reflection, peace, natural beauty.

Only thing I do regret is that, originally, I did not do what you are SUPPOSED to do, per the garden police, I guess, and "prepare the bed" by, like, killing all the grass with a pesticide and then tilling the whole works up and letting it lay fallow and yada yada yada.  No patience for that, I'm an O, dang it.  Besides, there are so many huge oak roots in that area of my yard that there was no way to even dig holes to plant some of the plants, and I had to build the soil UP around them anyway.  But I should have mulched everything right away, however, at the time I felt, oh, just let everything be wild, this is an English Cottage Garden feel I'm going for.  Well, the grass bit is a tad too wild, but okay.  I did try to bring in a lot of soil this weekend and I was then going to mulch the whole works, but I was fighting something wicked bad off this weekend (elderberry to the rescue!) and I kept getting so exhausted and feverish, it wasn't even funny, so every time I went to Lowe's, I only got about five bags of the 40-lb soil.  When I'm at the top of my game, I can get about 10 or 15 per trip...the Saturn sedan won't hold much more than that anyway.  But I decided long about Sunday, the heck with it, I just am not up to trucking in enough bags of soil and mulch to do this whole thing and most areas of it are so tightly packed anyway that it won't make much diff, so just give yourself a break and chill with the soil and mulch, Edna.  So I am, I'm not doing anymore on that front, it is just too daunting somehow right now.  I'm getting the two or so more gorgeous rocks and that will be that!  And I told Sarah (don't know if she heard) that I finally got her sign back up and the garden is looking way more loved than it did, so yay, team!


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You have lavished a lot of time, money, blood sweat and tears on the garden, and it sounds GORGEOUS. Sarah would be very pleased and proud. You're doin' good, twinnie. Kudos to you! *hug*


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I'm gonna take some more pics of it now, as y'all have to see the pots I'm talking 'bout, for one thing (I mean, they are just little pots but, I dunno, it takes so little to make my day!!!).  However, many of the plants themselves are kinda sorta half dead after a loooooooong (six-month) Florida summer of neglect and boiling heat.  I notice that some of them are coming back to life now, starting to sprout little blooming flowers.  I thought I was doing something horribly wrong this summer, as nothing was blooming.  So, a native Floridian informed me "Oh, nothing is going to bloom in the summer, it is too hot!"  See, silly me, I'm from the north and the summer is when things bloom up there on the NORMAL side of the looking glass *lol*.  Anyway, so a few things are still alive.  Some of the stuff, I think I've managed to kill, though.  It is all looking pretty war weary.  But, I dunno, I'm just happy with the whole thing anyway, although I wouldn't have chosen some of the plants I have in there if I had it to do over again.  I really don't like anything too tender.  You have to be tough in this man's army *lol*!

But, in the front city-right-of-way, I put all those dwarf buford hollies in, and it turns out that they HATE Florida and most of 'em are dying on me.  I've started replacing them with junipers, but my point is:  live and learn.  I know SO much more about gardening and plants today than I did about 5 years ago when I planted a loooong row of Italian Cypress (!) between me and what was (Gosh, I love that it is PAST TENSE) the rental house from h*ll.  Little did I know that Italian Cypress grow to be NINETY FEET TALL!  Moral:  never listen to the pup at Home Depot.  In fact, don't go to Home Depot, go to Lowe's.  Meanwhile, my Italian Cypress are still only about 3-feet tall, so all righty.

Anyway, thanks for the kudos, twinnie.  If you really saw the garden, you'd probably think:  lord love a flamingo, what an unkempt, wild-n-woolly, yet half-dead thaaaang!  But you would also notice the coolio rocks and gazing ball and everything and it does sort of kind of add up to the lovely, reflection-inducing, peace-infusing natural space I was going for.  So, yay team.  Sunday, I was thinking, forget what anyone else thinks, if **I** was looking to buy a house and I saw this garden, it is the kind of thing that might make tip me in favor of buying my house, as I am a sucker for a rock garden, like I said.  But, if I went inside the house, that could be a deal breaker at this point, as the dilapidation factor has reached critical mass!  But that's another subject!  The good news is that the garden, imperfect as it is, is finally approaching worthiness of Sarah.  I mean, it is just a little patch, not a botanical garden or anything, but I think she would appreciate the love that went into it.  I'm real happy that I found the perfect little trellisy thing to hang her sign on, too.  I like that it has two butterflies in the design, as there are butterfly bushes and other plants in the garden that are butterfly-friendly.

Anyway, that's all the garden news that's fit to print.  We don't need to go into how J, the dog, views the new brick border as her personal sidewalk and keeps semi-wrecking them up by trottin' along them *lol*, following the curves exactly.  She's a hoot.


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