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Sounds like you're a 'real gardener' to me, Car dear. You've got all the signs: exhausted body and sore muscles, an empty bank account, and a desire to plant more stuff! *chuckle* Well, eventually anyway.

Now you can sit back and let the garden tell you what it wants to do. Don't worry about the gardenias. They are notoriously delicate and wilt at the drop of a hat, so if they do decide to go, you can replace them with something else.

I suggest you gather up a small comfy chair, a glass of iced tea, and enjoy some relaxing moments in honor of Sarah. She would be very proud of you, a charaid.



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For what it's worth,Penny Royal is a purple flowered scented plant that apparently cats don't like.if you plant them i cant remember if its 9 inches or 9 feet apart from each other in the area you want to keep the cats out of they'll stay away as they dont like the smell(however to us its a nice smell apparently thank goodness) at least it'll keep the cats out.Another tip Lion dung on your soil is a good fertiliser it keeps foxes out.Depending where you put it in the garden & to which way the wind's blowin it just may keep the neighbours from hell indoors.if you catch my drift?


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Oh no, I don't want to keep the kitties out!  I love kitties!  I only wish J wouldn't chase Leo out and I mean she CHASES him out with a passion.  Makes me wonder what would happen if I ever got a kitten...like, would she try to eat him/her?  She has killed two squirrels since I've had her, once from the end of her leash, before I even knew what was going on!  She likes our own two kitties, who preceded her in the household, however, she definitely asserts her dominance over them, shall we say, to a point that makes momma here cross with her sometimes.  At this point, since I've had J since 1997, she should theoretically be secure enough in her place in the family not to have to act like such a weeniebutt to the cats sometimes, but dogs will be dogs, I guess.  J is a bossy gal.  And me being inexperienced and clueless with dogs, I never trained her right, I guess, and I didn't even get her as a puppy, either, she was already a year and three months old, at least, possibly up to three years old.  So, anyway, she is a definite Leo chaser, but I have no prob with Leo coming over, in fact, I love Leo.  What a nice boy.  Then again, I love all cats.  They are all welcome in my yard.

AND I LOVE the idea about the manure and think I will apply some cow manure (they have bags of it at Lowe's) to the front city right of way between the hollies and crotons I planted, that way, if the darlings do their skateboard moves up onto the curb, MANURE!  Ha!  Too bad it has all the odor basically taken out somehow.  Where do I get me some of this elephant poo?  Too bad I can't put it all over the brick edging I put in along the edge of the front lawn and sidewalk, as they keep knocking it out and chipping it up.  In fact, too bad I can't just cover my entire property in elephant dung for the duration, until all these kids go far, FAR away.  In fact, that sounds like one of the better plans I've come up with so far, sadly.

You know, Sarah was always asking me about the kid situation (really, a parent situation), no matter how awful her illness became.  She always asked about me and sincerely wanted to know whatever was going on in my life and whatever was concerning me.  She never told me to GET OVER IT AND REALIZE HOW LUCKY YOU ARE TO BE HEALTHY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  She never made me feel that my concerns were petty or overblown or anything.  She was the best listener ever.  How does a person do that when confronting such an awful reality in her own life?  I'm not a good listener NOW, in perfect health!  How do you go on having such a real and sincere caring about your friends' problems that pale in comparison to your own?  The only answer I can come up with is that you are a very, extremely, remarkably loving person and even though you realize that the problems are smaller than your own, tiny and irrelevant compared to your own, because you love your friend, you want to hear about them anyway.  I really miss Sarah.

Brighid, got somethin' to say about the whole being a true gardener thaaang, too, but now I went and got myself all choked up about Sarah again, PLUS it is past my lunch time and, as we all know, O's gotta EAT when they gotta EAT, especially protein-wise.  So, stay tuned...


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Well, even if the rotted manure doesn't have a deterrent smell, you can always use manure tea for fertilizer. That DOES have a smell, does it ever. *eg*

I love kitties too, as you well know, but a word of caution: make sure the neighborhood cats don't decide to start using all your nice soft earth as their potty box. They will, if you let them, and getting them to stop is ten times harder than preventing them from starting. I suggest a water pistol. I use one on my cats when they behave badly, only as a last resort, but I do use it now and then. One harmless squirt, and they're gone. You can also use a 'shaker can' to stop behavior you don't like. A pop can filled with some metal objects works nicely--a few pennies or nails or whatever. You could also use those old calcium caps you've had in the cupboard for a couple of years. Shake the bottle, and if it makes a loud noise, it'll work just fine. *chuckle* Any time you see cats digging in the earth or pottying, make noise and make them stop.

Off topic a bit here, it sounds to me as if J has prey drive. Most dogs do to some extent. There isn't much you can do to stop it; you have to catch her in the act and break the instinctive reaction fairly quickly, so she doesn't get the reward of chasing the prey before you correct her. You can't get rid of the behavior because it IS instinct; the best you can do is contain and manage it. I know whereof I speak, we just had a dog go missing because he broke down a gate going after something--probably a squirrel or cat.

Okay, I'm done hijacking the thread. Have a good weekend, and enjoy that garden Car!


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Brig, do you think that if Jamie has killed squirrels, she would try to kill a kitten, as it is as small?  She is obnoxious to her own two cats, but has never hurt them, although she does snap at poor old (19-year-old) Ollie when, after he comes to my chair, and I bend down to pick him up (he can't jump onto my lap anymore), and she (J) is there at my feet (where else) and even if I tell her "Staaaay" firmly, just as I'm picking up Tuft (Ollie), at the moment he passes close to her head, she will snap at him.  What a Miss Thing.  Dang, J, can't we all just have a love-in without you having to get all Miss Thing like?  She is domineering over the cats, but has not hurt them.  They were here first and are grown cats.  She is also nice to cats when we walk, and when we see ones we know, she walks up, tail a'wagging and is sweet to them.  But for some reason, when Leo comes into her backyard, she chases him, probably because, when she RUNS up to him, he naturally takes off running, and that triggers her "chase" drive, prey drive, or whatever in the Sam Hill is programmed in there to her ROM drive.

Getting a kitten is not imminent or anything, but I worry about it with Miss J.  I don't think she would hurt a kitten, as I think she knows the diff between a cat and what she considers prey, like a squir, but who in the heck knows.  I think she just wants to play with Leo, but when he starts running, that triggers "prey, chase".  What she would do if she CAUGHT him and he were a tiny kitten is what worries me.

Now, about the gardening business:  Hmmmm, from your description, apparently I AM one afterall, as YES, that is IT to a "T":  I spend all this money I don't have on plants (and I am not a spender on luxury, I mean, NO CABLE, does that tell you something!  ...no A/C for the past two years, IN FLORIDA, we need not go further) and I can't seem to stop, I'm HOOKED, I tell ya!  Luckily, there is NOWHERE left to plant out, just that one little area that is going to wait (as God is my witness) until next spring...or at least until FALL.  Spring would be better because I need to save money for the HOUSE, or what's left of it anyway.

I have declared this upcoming weekend a "no gardening allowed" one.  Oh sure, I can water (GOTS to, whether the plants need it or not, to keep the skateboarders off the sidewalk, although that only buys me two hours) and maybe weed and prune, but NO PLANTING and definitely no buying anything...except maybe that rosemary you suggested, for where there was going to be a chair but now there's not room...oh, forget it, I'm hopelessly HOOKED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

But, as addictions go, this is a very healing, life-affirming one.

Too bad I didn't know back a few years ago all that I know now, not that I know much now.  But I would not have sc*wed up the looooooooooooooooong edge of the property between me and the Rental House from H*ll by planting all the wrong stuff as a "hedge".  Long story, but while it does finally look good now after like 7 years of adding to it, it is going to be a prob in the long run...don't ask, don't tell, but for one example, there are 18 Italian Cypress involved in the mix...who knew they will grow to 90 feet tall?  When I told the guy I wanted tall, skinny and something that doesn't need a lot of pruning, he went a hair overboard on the "tall" front!  Luckily, they haven't grown a speck in like three or four years.  It'll take many a moon for them to reach 90 feet apiece.  By then, these renters must surely be gone (please, please) and I then will be the problem neighbor, with my tall, daft-looking trees all along one side!  And there is other stuff between the cypress.  Don't go there.  Suffice it to say, I have made baaaaaaahd landscaping mistakes.  Oh well.  No guts, no glory.


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without a picture of your garden & whereabouts the neighbours from hell bother you most its hard to give you more precise ideas how to help you.Glad you liked the lion dung manure idea that apparently is the strongest smelling manure you can get.However chicken sh*t is good,believe me.i think the product name is called Rooster.
i know what its like to have neighbours from hell as the previous ones were.the present ones are better but there's room for improvement believe me.why is it some people seem to think the world revolves around them and everyone else is there to serve them?ggrr. good luck with the pooh though i shall be thinking of you


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Sounds like you're ready to relax and enjoy your garden this weekend. I look forward to finding out how things went when you come back to work on Monday.


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Bump!

I'm trying desperately to keep this thread active, present and accounted for long enough for me to get my ever-lovin' picture taking, developing and scanning act together!  This weekend, as far as the garden goes, I:

1.  Returned a dead gardenia to the nursery, where I will NEVER shop again!  I usually buy my plants at Lowes, which I love and would highly recommend to everyone.  Their prices are low, their plants are beautiful, they have a huge variety AND amount of any given plant, AND their return policy is great store-wide, not just in the garden department.  But thanks to Verna's brilliant suggestion that I plant butterfly bushes in Sarah's garden, I ran all over town to find butterfly bushes and this punk-arse nursery was the only place that had them.  They think they are so great and they come and talk, as the monthly speaker, to our 'hood association once per year and I am going to tell the prez (of the 'hood association) NOT to have them speak there anymore because they are a punk-arse company!  Witness this:  Their prices are ridiculous, they have terrible labeling on plants, non-existent in some case, incorrect in others, AND: When I tried to return this dead plant, admittedly sans receipt, I called 'em on the horn to say, hey, what is your return policy if someone can't find their receipt.  "Well, what did you do to it?"  Hmmm, let's see, I planted it, watered it every night, cooed at it, begged it not to go belly up on me, does that about cover it?  "Well, we like it if you can bring it in for an autopsy".  Fine.  In I trot, complete with dead gardenia in a bag.  "Are you the one I talked to on the phone about the gardenia?"  "No, but I heard all about it."  Like, what do you mean "all about it"?, you mean you heard that you sold me a pre-dead plant?  Is THAT what you mean, thought I, O non blood beginning to heat up.  I mean, like, just give me my money back, I spent over $200.00 in your flippin' store, this particular plant is a dud, MONEY, NOW.  So, I show him the plant, and he concludes that it wasn't getting any water and I killed it.  He also said "hmmm, that is a florist grade gardenia.  I don't think we even sell those...Bill, do we ever have florist grade?"  I'm really mad now, like, yeah, I'm really trying to pull a fast one here, dink, I secretly bought this gardenia somewhere else and am trying to return it here!  This is a scam I have run all up and down the east coast and, when the heat gets too hot, I just move on to the next city where they aren't on to me yet!


"Yes, we have had those in on occasion", says Bill.

Meanwhile, I acted (acting!) cool as a cuke, and even was gracious enough to say "Well, there is a chance I got this at Lowe's, as I bought a lot of plants that weekend, but I'm 99.99% sure I bought it here."  How do I remember?  Because their receipt is so LOUSY that it doesn't itemize the plants, so I remember that, the night I bought the $200.00 worth of plants, I walked around the yard with the receipt after setting them all down outta the car, and I wrote the names of each down on the receipt so that I could come in here and dutifully report to y'all the names of all the plants I bought.  I could swear that, on the receipt from the punk-arse nursery, I wrote "gardenias, two".  PFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFT!


But, for some inexplicable reason, I didn't push the issue and even gave him the out that, well, maybe I bought it at Lowes, I'm just not sure now that you mention it.  He never gave me my money back, so my view is as follows:  For the ridiculous prices y'all charge versus what your competitors, Lowes and Home Depot, charge, the LEAST you could do is HAVE A DECENT RETURN POLICY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have NEVER had to return a plant to Lowes (and I've bought literally hundreds of plants there), but I've had to return a few other items and they are fantastic.  Yet this fru-fru, punk-arse nursery won't take back one belly-up gardenia out of a sale of more than $200.00 worth of plants-n-peat?  (&#*&#Fgrrr(*&#Pwhat)(&#(&???  Never will I set foot in there again--NEVER, I tell you!  It is the principle of the thing!  Later that day, I received my bank statement and there were the two sales (went back for peat!) from that nursery that one night, saying clearly the name of the nursery and the amount, so too bad I didn't bring THAT right back to the store and demand my pittance for the gardenia.  Again, it is the principle of the thing, like, how much chutzpah does this overpriced place have, to sell someone a pre-dead gardenia and then not own up to it once it is really an ex-gardenia!  Shades of the Monty Python parrot sketch of yesteryear!  So, I have a good mind to call up today and give them a piece of the ole', ever-lovin' mind, especially since the garden is in Sarah's honor and I'm darn sure that is what SHE would want me to do!

ANYWAY (rant, much?), so I attempted to return one of the gardenias.  Then I went back to the rock place, got ONE MORE of my fave, the "green glacier chunks", dug up one bush of unknown name but a relative of whose I notice is LARGE in my neighborhood, put it where the gardenia had been, and put the big glacier rock where the bush had been.  I also bought a purple-leafed plant and a purple/lavender-flowering plant to put where I had left a little room for a 2nd chair in the garden, but not ENOUGH room to actually fit the chair, as it turns out.

I also spar-varnished the gazing ball stand (still needs another coat) and spar-varnished the dedication sign that a co-worker gave me.

That is all I'll do before getting the second roll of film and snappin away, except I will do the second coat of spar-varnish on the gazing ball stand first.

But, EVENTUALLY, I would really like to do the following, which I can't do now, due to being in the worst financial straights I've been in this millenium.  I basically have less than ZERO money to survive on until April 22 and until May 6, I don't dare exhale fully.  But on May 6th, I am cashing in 80 hours of PTO (vacation/sick time) and then will be able to breathe anew!  Landscaping the city-right-of-way in the front and then doing Sarah's garden has really done me in financially--maybe that is why I'm in such a state of huffiness at the nursery about the gardenia...nah, it's the principle of the thing, I don't care if I were a billionairre, I still think that punk-arse nursery is a punk-arse nursery.  Anyway, even on May 6th, the money is all spoken for and doing any landscaping has to wait, but EVENTUALLY, I'd like to:

1.  Put a certain kind of rounded river rock all around the edge of Sarah's garden, to define it.

2.  Put a smaller, slightly different verson of river rocks around the inside areas of the garden, to define the "paths".  (This makes the garden area sound waaaaaay bigger than it is, but there are two little paths, even though it is a very small area.)

3.  Put very small, fine rocks on the paths themselves.

4.  Put more soil on everything and maybe some mulch (but maybe NOT mulch, as that gives kind of a "formal" look to things and I like the idea of a "wild" English cottage garden, sort of overgrown looking within the garden itself.

And that's all the news that's fit to print!  Looked for a rosemary bush, Brighid, but they said at Lowes that they only have those at certain times.  If it ain't at Lowes, I ain't getting it!  No more punk-arsed nurseries for me!  Do you believe that, charging outrageous prices AND having no customer service?  What is that?  Is that a recipe for business success or WHAT?  And yet this nursery seems very popular.  Me no get.  If you need me, you can find me at Lowes, no doubt loading 40-lb bags of soil onto a palette-style cart.  Again:  A husband would not go amiss here.  He could be home cleaning the house like a good husband.  Or giving the punk-arsed nursery what for.  Or sitting there with a sawed-off shotgun in our yard, daring kids to come anywhere near it.  Yes, the romanticized ideal of finding my soulmate is still there and all well and good, but if he can do all of the above, too, AND fix a kitchen subfloor, THEN, my friends, we have a winner!

Back to the garden update:  I hope to get all pics taken and in to the developer by Sunday next at the latest.  Then I'll be picking them up the next week and hopefully scanning them.  So, hopefully within two or three weeks, we should have LIFT OFF on posting the garden pics.  Hang with me, peeps, and keep this thread alive until then!


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Okay Car. Take a deep breath in through your nose and blow it out through your mouth . . . relax, dear twinnie. You're doing a fantastic job with the garden, let no one say you nay. You've accomplished an amazing amount in a very short length of time.

As for the punk-arse nursery--there seem to be a fair number of them around. I guess people go to them because they love abuse, that's all I can figure. I'm all for buying from local merchants and putting my money back into the community that way, rather than sending my dollars into someone's corporate coffers, never to see the light of day again--but if the local merchants act like jerks, then I'll go to a chain store. Treat me nice, or you won't see me. Don't get me started on this one *lol* I was a clerk at KMart and in several bookstores, and I really hate getting attitude from employees in any business, big or small, local or nationwide. I won't put up with that kind of nonsense.

Anyway--can't wait to see the pictures of the garden! And any mods reading this--maybe you could make this a sticky thread? Pretty please?


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Okay Car. Take a deep breath in through your nose and blow it out through your mouth . . . relax, dear twinnie. You're doing a fantastic job with the garden, let no one say you nay. You've accomplished an amazing amount in a very short length of time.


Inhale, deep cleansing breath........aaaaaaaaaaand, exhale, releasing all tension.......aaaaaaaaaaaah.

Meanwhile, true, I've done an amazing amount in a short time, but also true:  I worry that, when I get and post the pics, y'all are gonna be like:  THAT is what this has all been about, a few little plants clumped together and not even defined by a border or mulched as they SHOULD be?  You're fired! (again, another Apprentice reference...poor Dr. D., I hope he isn't reading this or he will be scratching his head anew!)

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Anyway--can't wait to see the pictures of the garden! And any mods reading this--maybe you could make this a sticky thread? Pretty please?


Actually, I'm not sure if that is such a grand idea because the pics will probably take up a tremendous amount of memory, so I think maybe we should post 'em, and then let them run their 30-day or so life, and then let 'em fade off.  Note:  I will be sending the pics to David (Sarah's husband) via e-mail, snail mail, or both, so no worries there, the family will know she is thought of, remembered and loved, not necessarily in that order.  I just hesitate to suggest stickiness because again, they might take up a LOT of memory, not sure.  Then again, they might take up NO memory, as they will be "hosted" by Image Shack or a similar site and those the photo you see on this site is really secretly just a link...right?  But I'm not sure, as Taswolf (dad, strict sort* that he is) recently asked someone gently if they would resize their guinea pig photos because they were humongous and I guess the subtext was that they took up a lot of memory?  Or maybe they just made the thread hard to navigate?  Not sure which/what/what my name is/what century this is, BUT if pics don't take up memory, stick away!  If they do, though, they might not want to make it sticky.  What a sticky wicket!

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As for the punk-arse nursery--there seem to be a fair number of them around. I guess people go to them because they love abuse, that's all I can figure. I'm all for buying from local merchants and putting my money back into the community that way, rather than sending my dollars into someone's corporate coffers, never to see the light of day again--but if the local merchants act like jerks, then I'll go to a chain store. Treat me nice, or you won't see me. Don't get me started on this one *lol* I was a clerk at KMart and in several bookstores, and I really hate getting attitude from employees in any business, big or small, local or nationwide. I won't put up with that kind of nonsense.


EXACTLY and EXACTAMUNDO, too!  If the huge chain store is consistently decent to me, has quality products and good prices, too, and the local darling is a tad on the SNOBBY, you-obviously-killed-our-plant-not-that-we're-even-admitting-it-IS-our-plant side, then the heck with their punk-arsed selves!!!!

(I'm cussing like a drunken sailor today, with my "punk-arsed"'s, aren't I?  Whew, feels liberating!  Well, they are, punk-arsed, that is, and I say that a punk-arsed rose by any other name still smells as punk-arsed!)

* had "b-u-g-g-e-r", no dashes, instead of "sort", but the software didn't care for it and changed it to "bu**ger...uh oh...drunken sailor, OUT!


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I think Dad's main objection was that big pictures take a long time to load, and not everyone has a high-speed or broadband internet connection. I know the dialup we had back at the cabin was slower than molasses on a good day, and it often took forever to load anything with a lot of graphics or piccies. I think if you can size down your pictures and keep them to a minimum, it'll be okay. Dad will help you, I'd bet.

As for criticism of your efforts--you surely won't get any from me, sweetie. Whatever you've done to honor Sarah, whether it's a large elaborate garden or several container pots filled with flowers in a quiet corner--it will be exactly right and beautiful. Don't you worry yourself to a standstill over this, Ms. Virgo-Is-My-Middle-Name *chuckle* You've worked hard and the results will be lovely.

As for that gardenia . . . I haven't met one yet that wouldn't turn up its roots and die if given even the tiniest little chance to do so. They're weenies, are gardenias. So there. You didn't kill it, as that idiot at the punk-arse nursery intimated; it decided to die. FEH and good riddance.


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As for that gardenia . . . I haven't met one yet that wouldn't turn up its roots and die if given even the tiniest little chance to do so. They're weenies, are gardenias.

U R 2 funny, twin-o-mine!

Today after work or possibly at lunch:  Will make the purchase of a 2nd disposable camera for the purpose of photographing the lovely dedication plaque that my co-worker made (I Spar-varnished it--wu HU!), and getting more pics, so that, once both rolls are developed, I can pick and choose only the best ones (maybe 5 to 10) to post here.  They will be hosted elsewhere so, again, I hope memory won't be a prob, but I know Tasdad will let us (well, me) know if anything is bringing the house down, memory-wise.

One thing:  I have decided that, eventually, I definitely am going to get a humongous load (make that plural, loads) of rocks to do a border with.  This garden needs a border to clearly define it from the grass around it!  Ditto for the internal little paths.  So, I think those will make it look a LOT better and that won't be for ages, so won't be in the pics.  Oh well.

Meanwhile, speaking of being po', guess what?  I was just lamenting the state-o-my po'ness yesterday in a post in another thread and then yesterday afternoon:  I GOT A RAISE!  WU HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU!  Just a drop in the bucket at about .50 cents more per hour, but hey, it sure beats a good, swift kick in the head, right?  Right!  I'll celebrate anything these days.

I really wonder how the pics will come out because I never realized that my "photo eye" is my RIGHT eye and it has apparently gone to h*ll in a handbasket to such an extent, as I mentioned earlier in the thread, that I can't see a blasted thing through it, other than a blur.  Any minute now, I am going to an eye doctor, but meanwhile, back at the inn, I don't know if I can take pics using my LEFT eye on the lens.  Isn't it weird how, if you are right-handed, you are apparently "right-eyed", too?  I mean, what should be the big deal about moving the camera an inch or two to cover my left eye instead of the right?  Yet I feel it is gonna throw me ALL OFF *lol*!  I don't know which will be the better roll:  The first, taken through a total blur, or the second, taken through my left eye, which I fear will be like trying to write my name in script with my left hand, for some reason.  Who knows, maybe it won't be like that at all.  Meanwhile, I wish I could remember my stupid user name and password for our health insurance's web site, as one must log on there to see what providers are ON THE LIST (dunh, dunh, DUNH!).  They make it really difficult to figure out what your benefits are...that is their system.  It is all a vast right-wing plot!




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Hi Car,
I appreciate you. If you don't mind, may I ask who Sarah is? Someone from the BTD community? And what happened to her?

I wish everyone has friends like you.

With love,
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Betul, of course you may ask!  Sarah was this amazing member of the BTD community.  She had breast cancer and never wanted to be defined by it or let it take over her life, and she valiantly tried to survive it and stay alive for her 7-year old son, husband and basically the entire world, as we dearly need her strong and spunky spirit here with us.  Tragically, the cancer ultimately did overwhelm her system and she passed away almost six weeks ago.  She and I had become good friends and I miss her a lot.  Her little son is now being raised by his dad, and even though it is tragic that Sarah was taken away from him so soon, the good way to look at it is that he is very blessed to have had her as a mom for the first, all-important early years of life.  Her influence and example will always be a part of him.  And of everyone who knew and loved her.


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God bless her family, her litle son especially.
I wished I'd joined you for the appointment on  3/27/2005, I wasn't viewing the forums those days.

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Okay, took a 2nd roll of film this weekend.  Bought a THIRD roll yesterday and will shoot tonight, as I since added a 40-lb bag of soil under one rock and that makes a lot of diff.*  WISH I could put a border around the edge of the garden and do something to set off the inner little paths to look like inner little paths, so that y'all could see it in its glory, and also most of the plants are too young to be blooming and spectacular yet.  But I just can't afford to do all that (the borders, paths, etc.) yet.  I console myself when I think "Oh PHOOEY, the pics aren't going to be how it ULTIMATELY looks" by reminding myself that a garden is always a work in progess and that, also, if anyone doesn't like it, they can, in the immortal words of the long-ago sit-com,** "Kiss my grits".


I think the garden will not come into its full spectacular spectacularness for quite a while, but I'll send y'all pics of how it is and like it or lump it, ya know?  Sorry, in a weird mood today.

Meanwhile, I am crazy in love with these rocks called "green glacier rocks" at the place I bought them, but I'm gonna ask my friend, Stan, who knows EVERYTHING about rocks, what they really are.  They are this cooling, calming, pale, pale green.  I love rocks in gardens!  Rocks rock!

Okay, dat's the update.  Hopefully, next time I post anything garden-related, it will be the pics.  After I take roll three today, I shall drop them off to be developed manana.  I hope at least FIVE pics turn out nice.  The second roll had this, like, little broken speck or fleck in the lens--NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!  I hope that won't affect the pics and/or was all in my demented little head.  ANYWAY, surely I can extract five or so nice pics to share with y'all out of 81 total pics...right?

I used to fancy myself somewhat of a photog, but after this sorry display, between my right eye going all old and unusable on me and the shadiness of the area AND the kids screaming, yelling and wreaking havoc in the front constantly distracting my attention, AND the mystery speck on the lens of roll two, it remains to be seen just what I will emerge from Walgreens with *lol*.

We shall see...

*Thanks, Verna, for the idea of elevating rocks.

**Alice, famous catch phrase of character, Flo...God, I'm old.  I know things that make me officially very, VERY old.



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a garden is always a work in progess


Exactamundo, my dear twinnie. Gardens aren't a one-off project. They grow and change and evolve, and that's the delight of working with them. They become something more than you'd envisioned way back at the beginning, when you put the first plant in the dirt.

Looking forward to pictures! Remember Dad Tas's note on pixel restrictions, and post away!

p.s. I remember Flo.  


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Flash:  Garden pics will be picked up from Walgreen's today.

Flash:  Butterfly Bushes and these COOL things called Agapanthus Peter Pan are starting to bloom and put out all sorts of cool shoots and things.

Flash:  Gardenia Numero Dos holding it's own.


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Can't wait to see the pictures Car!

Agapanthus and butterfly bushes . . . pretty colors everywhere! You should be getting some welcome visitors soon (butterflies and maybe the occasional hummingbird).

Wow, a gardenia that isn't a wimp! Woohoo! Go Gardenia go!

Sorry, I'm in a silly mood today.


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eeeh you both twinnies-gals
is that possible?- being twins- one sechi and the otherone is a nonie???!!

Depends if you came out of one or two eggs-häää? So far I bet for three  
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Flash: Got pics!

Flash:  Honed it down to 22 pics out of 81+*

Flash:  Photobucket S*CKS, big time, as does Shutterfly.  I'm trying Yahoo as we speak, as I usually have good luck w/Yahoo and now I can't find the post that warns me away from Yahoo for some reason that I've already forgotten.  Let's hope it doesn't apply.

Flash:  Off I go.

*The "+" referring to the 3 or so pics from an ancient roll from over a year ago I just had developed that have zip to do w/Sarah's garden, but I just thought I'd show you.


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FLASH:  Figured out why YAHOO also S*O*&*R#CKS:

"JPEGs only".  PFFFFFFFFT, to quote George Baily from "It's a Wonderful Life":  "Why don't you tell a person!"  I scanned all 22 photos as .tifs and I'll be hog tied to an old oak tree if I am going to RESCAN them all as .jpg's (not even sure our scanner allows that, for some reason, although one would think it would, as that is the common form for photos, but see, we don't usually scan photos, we usually scan graphics...oh dear, shouldn't matter, any modern scanner worth its salt should allow a freakin' .jpg, right?  Why didn't I do it as a .jpg?!  I guess I figured, it knows what to default to, and it looked good, so I went with it!  EEEE-I, EEEE-I, O


Let me guess:  I am, in fact, going to need to rescan all 22 of these!  WHEN, is the question, as all the stars aligned just right so that I could use the scanner on my co-worker's desk without anyone knowing, as it is her day off today.  Man, and I thought I had done it.  Jpg.  Pfffffffffffft.  Jpg THIS, Yahoo.


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sigh.  new plan.  i don't even have the energy for caps at this point *lol*:

I am just going to image shack these all and post them directly to a post here as an image link, individual for each one.  Image Shack hung up/froze on me, too, earlier, but hopefully it was a fluke.

WHY DID I SCAN THESE AS .TIFs?

Not of this millennium, out.


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Sorry you're having a tough time of it, twinnie *gentle hug* Technology, bah.


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Excited yet exhausted FLASH:

Okay, RE-scanned all the pics as .jpgs (lesson locked, loaded and LEARNED!).  The .tifs were apparently WAY too big for any known system to handle!  I mean, omg, what is going on THERE?  Anyway, they are all .jpgs now, all 22 of them, and I got them loaded into my brand new Yahoo photo album.  Manana, if I have time (now that I blew off work all afternoon basically!!!!!), I will rename them all (it gave them the filenames) and add a description, then post the link for y'all!  I like this because, when you click a pic, you get a nice, large version, yet it doesn't affect this message board in the slightest, ya know?

Well, I'm off to take care of the dog (pic a'coming manana!), freak out over the gang-o-kids, and get into geeked-out pre-"Lost" mode!  Later, guys!  Pics 2-morrow, I promise!

(p.s.  i am now one weary, yet EXPERT scanner...call me for all your photo scanning needs...)


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