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dawgmama
Wednesday, January 17, 2007, 1:35pm Report to Moderator Report to Moderator

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One of our "summer friends" (we play volleyball together in summer), was just diagnosed with breast cancer. She has 4 boys (ages 16-10), a husband, and a dog. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to help, and support her during this difficult time? We don't want to intrude, nor seem aloof.

It was stage 3, and the lumpectomy had irregular margins, so now they want to do a mastectomy. The lymph nodes and the other breast showed no cancer. She doesn't know if she should have a full mastectomy, just in case or not. Also, she has heard 'horror' stories about breast reconstruction, so she doesn't know what to do.

She is one of those women who tries to "do it all", so the family will be kind of adrift while she is recovering, without mom able to take care of everthing.

I don't know her blood type, and she has enough on her mind right now, but I will bring it up to her sometime, so she can heal better. Any suggestions/advice will be much appreciated.


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oh,   what a pitty...huh...please go for the cancerbook from Dr. D. all is in here g'd luck
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Blood type...secretor test...cancer book and lots of support.

Debra


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Jackfruit is one super beneficial  for fighting cancer.  
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she should read about other survivors who have struggled to fight breast cancer, and feel she s not alone and that there is hope.

http://www.dadamo.com/columns/coping/bio.htm

http://www.dadamo.com/bloggers/41/about.htm

to name a few.....


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dawgmama, I'm sorry to hear this.

FYI, there is some evidence that CoQ10 is not only protective against breast cancer but can help the woman's body fight it once she has it.

http://www.healthy.net/scr/Column.asp?Id=102

http://www.newswithviews.com/Howenstine/james2.htm

http://www.cancer.gov/cancer_information/doc.aspx?viewid=0E5B4097-610C-4A49-844F-D935F1D7BB07

I really hope your friend will be cancer-free.


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dawg,
get her a copy of the cancer book.......it is a very effective guideline.......gives advice on the right supplements during chemo.......so much info in just one little booklet!


''Just follow the book, don't look for magic fixes to get you off the hook. Do the work.'' Dr.D.'98
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Hi Dawg, sorry to hear about your friend.  You are wonderful for trying to help her...she will need you.

I will tell you from experience what helped me the most.  

When you are diagnosed with cancer, people have all sorts of responses.  Some want to 'help' by giving you advice on everything from drugs to surgery to diet to supps...etc.  Your instincts are spot on, she has enough to deal with right now without being 'advised'.  Gentle suggestions may be welcome, just use and trust your instincts there.

She has to find her own path through this.  She will need to filter all she hears and tune into herself and make her best decisions.  

She will need you.  Friends to talk, laugh, cry, vent, talk about regular things, etc. are a godsend.  Be there for her without judgement.  And if you are not sure of what to do or say, don't be afraid of that.  Ask questions if you are not sure.  

Practical things that you and your friends could do can be as simple as dropping funny cards in the mail or notes on a regular basis, emails, phone calls...just let her know you are thinking of her as often as you can.

A lot will depend on her treatment, if she decides to do more surgery/chemo/rad etc.  While she is doing any of that, she'll need way more support too.

Babysitting...that will be a big one for her with her young children.  They will need lots of attention that she might not have the energy to give them.  Food...a schedule of people to bring them a hot meal each day, I know lots of people do that and it sure seems like people appreciate it, esp when there are kids.

Those are a few random thoughts.  I will post others if I think of them.  All I know is that I appreciated EVERYTHING that anyone tried to do for me.  Even if it was really not what I needed, I appreciated the intent.  Just trust yourself, and be there for her in whatever way you can.

Hugs to you and your friend.


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I also recommend the cancer book and adhering to the Superbeneficials.  

If your friend can not obtain access to this book, then for the meantime, I would encourage your friend to stick to the Tier II food values in the LR book and focus only on beneficials foods and pay attention to adding any neutrals to her meals.  

Also, be cognizant of the exercise and lifestyle approaches recommended for her blood type.  The appropriate exercise(s) will help your friend through this period.

Alia


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see if she is willing to try a typhoid vaccine to help her fight the cancer

http://www.dadamo.com/bloggers/ask/archives/00000294.htm


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Thank you everyone, for the links and advice, I will read all the links after I walk the dogs. Gotta get that daily exercise!  

Thanks Gumby, for the personal experiance advice. I hope you are doing well. The hot meals are what I was thinking too. Once I learn her bloodtype, I can make sure that they are beneficials. I like the idea of just being there for her. By the way, your signature made me crack up!  

I will look for the cancer booklets. Do I get them from the Dr.D. store, or at my local Barnes and Noble? I will do some research on the typhoid vaccine, and also, on jackfruit. So much good info. Thanks again!


"Be as gentle as  possible, and as firm as necessary".   Tom Dorrance-the 'father' of natural horsemanship

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call your local B&N store, see if they have them in stock.......
if not, NAP will do as well.


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If the lymph nodes are clear, why do they want to remove the entire breast?  

I had breast cancer 4 1/2 years ago in one breast, stage 2B, fast growing, irregular edges with a faint trace of malignancy in the sentinel node.  They removed all the lymph nodes on that side just to be sure, but all the others were clean.  I had a lumpectomy.  It was a tumor the size of a kumquat, but still I was able to keep my breast.  

I chose to have chemotherapy and radiation, and I worked with a Naturopath to make sure I was getting heavy duty natural support in the lines of antioxidants, enzymes, green foods, amino acids, good quality vitamins, minerals, essential fatty acids, etc.  My first action was getting my secretor status tested.  I started juicing vegetables everyday, and still follow that practice.  I lived closely by Dr. D.'s book on Cancer and the BTD.  It is fantastic, but only if a person is willing to make a commitment to accept responsibility for their health.  I stopped eating all avoids 4 1/2 years ago and have never wavered on that decision.  It can be a life and death decision when faced with something like that.

My recovery was fast, and I continue to pass all tests.  The chemo left me with some adrenal fatigue, but I'm able to deal with that now.



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Quoted from dawgmama
I will look for the cancer booklets. Do I get them from the Dr.D. store, or at my local Barnes and Noble? I will do some research on the typhoid vaccine, and also, on jackfruit.

The vaccine and jackfruit are covered in the Cancer book.



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You can also read The Individualist entry about the vaccine on this page: Thomsen-Friedenreich (T-Tn) antigen


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Wow Victoria!  Glad to hear that you are doing so well! I don't understand why they want to take the whole breast, I heard that from her very upset husband, so maybe he was incorrect. I hope so. I will get the real story from her. I will show her these posts, and get the cancer booklet.

Thanks all, for your help!


"Be as gentle as  possible, and as firm as necessary".   Tom Dorrance-the 'father' of natural horsemanship

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