Gatherer; INFJ; BTD/GTDer since 1997; lost 97 lbs Kyosha Nim
Location: The Sunshine State
I’m just gonna say this, like ripping off a Band-Aid, as that will be less painful than eeeeeaaaasing into it: I’ve gained 10 pounds since selling my house and moving into an apartment. Actually, more like 11, but who’s counting.
Now, 11 pounds is only 11 pounds, it isn’t the end of the world, in the grand scheme of things. My weight tends to be very sensitive and fluctuate by a few lbs in either direction anyway…but not 11. I’m not panicked, because I have the knowledge and have progressed along in many ways to the point that I do know what to do to turn this around. So not panicked, yet somewhat scared, I must say. And it just drives the point home to me yet again about how incredibly sensitive us Gatherers are to things that other genotypes might be able to get away with sans any weight gain. We Gatherers have to be constantly mindful of our diet, very careful with it, and also we have to keep up our exercise and down our stress (ha!). If we don’t, our bodies’ first line of defense to ANY perceived threat, our first biochemical reaction, is to GAIN WEIGHT. We are programmed for it!
We are biologically geared to gain and hold onto weight, which is a really enviable trait in most of the situations humankind found itself in throughout its history. But in modern western society, it’s a killer.
What has changed for me and set my body into this weight gain mode is several factors all at once: I went through extreme stress a few months ago with selling my house and trying to find another place to live, then I moved and my entire routine was turned upside down, with the biggest change being that instead of walking half an hour or more EVERY single week day on my lunch break, now I almost never walk on my lunch break. Instead, I’m going home to the apartment, which is very close to my work, to take the doggie out for a few moments. But even when I skip doing that, I don’t seem to WALK. I have started walking a little bit around the complex (it is 22 buildings!) with Hurley in the evening, but it isn’t half an hour or 45 minutes, it is more like 15 to 20 minutes. The other thing is the stress, not just of moving, but my mom is aging rapidly and I have a lot of stress and fear about her, and I find myself going to my old “go to” response of trying to comfort myself with food, yet it is also a way to stuff down my fears and other feelings…and possibly I am subconsciously trying to protect myself from the world with a wall of FAT around me, although of course my conscious mind knows that is stupid, fat doesn’t protect you from anything, it just makes you unhealthy, in addition to all the other challenges going on in your life.
Anyway, I’m hoping to get this stabilized and turned around. I had a few things in the house (apartment, that is) that I shouldn’t have, such as a certain brand of organic ice cream (! I know) which I can’t be trusted around, clearly, not in this stressed out state, anyway. But I haven’t had any of it around for a week or so and I am still gaining. That said, I had some almond butter for the first time in a long while, which I KNOW packs the pounds on me, and while I didn’t go crazy with it, sure enough, it did what it did—see, THAT is what I’m saying: us Gatherers can’t get away with ANYTHING. Almonds are a SUPERFOOD for me, for goodness sake, yet the almond butter is just too fattening for me to have around (whole nuts and seeds do not seem to present that problem to me).
I think now that the weather is warming (which is ISN’T today, but I mean the general trend), I will be able to get back to my “summer mode’ of subsisting mainly and vivaciously on salads with protein, and watermelon. That will help a LOT, as the other thing that’s been happening (which is part and parcel of the thing about comforting myself with food and all) is that I’ve been eating WAAAAAAAAY too much grain. Compliant grain, yes, but again, let’s review: I’M A GATHERER. Enough said.
So, I know I need fewer grains, more walking, no ice cream (!) or almond butter, etc. I’ll be okay. The other thing is to honestly look at the psychological factors such as my fear and stress about my mom, my living situation, my job, etc. Especially my mom, because I think my fears about her are a lot of it, but the point is, while I strongly think that most of what my weight challenges are about is biochemical, there is also a psychological component, and I’ve progressed along in my understanding and growth on that front, right along with my diet/nutrition knowledge and practice over the years. My success is therefore built on a whole, it is holistic, and to be ongoing, I need to continue with that. I need to be mindful that I’ll always be a Gatherer: stress, changes, emotional times, they will always hit me right on the scale whereas other genotypes get hit with them in other ways. I need to be mindful of that, very intentional about my eating choices, kind to myself and understanding yet realizing: if you eat that, there will be a price. If you don’t walk enough DAILY, there will be a price. And the price is way too high, so be good to yourself by taking care of yourself. It may feel good to eat that huge vat of rice in the moment, or that ice cream, but what is kinder and therefore more comforting to yourself in the long run is to take care of yourself and stay healthy. That makes you strong. That makes you better able to cope. Hiding behind food and a wall of fat doesn’t really protect you, it is illusory. Truly loving yourself by taking care of yourself, making yourself as strong and healthy as possible, that is what protects you best. Neither way keeps all the scary things in life away, or any of them. But Way Two makes you far better equipped to cope with them all.
"If you are on one of Dr. D's diets and it isn't joyful, you aren't doing it right."- moi
PT I couldn't have put it better. I've gain more than you this winter. almost 20lb. and I can't really say it has anything to do with food compliance. This winter has messed with my walking, and while I'd usually put in a dvd with Ken home most days I don't.
Stress is a real hard one. I'm still working on that one.
I hope with spring, warmer temps, blessed sunshine, we will get back on track.
Here's another Gatherer chiming in that you're not alone in your struggle with the traits of a Gatherer. I too have regained weight that I swore I'd never let come back again. But when that stress, depression and lack of exercise hits us it jumps right back on. We have the tools to correct it, so as spring comes, lets get at it Gatherers!
Concealed Carry Gatherer! SWAMI Explorer Blend Kyosha Nim
Location: Chicago, Illinois
You all nailed it! We need our exercise & if we don't get it, the weight creeps on. I think you will be OK, PT, as the weather gets better & the housing sitch improves. I love to hear how it is doing; I love your writing style!!
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another gatherer on board! (love the title of this thread!!!) I have already stated on fresh start that I hope to be the next Peppermint twist in weight loss! Meaning, to finally lose the whole amount I'd like to lose. PT, you will lose those few extra lbs. I am making a big soup today. No grains or potatoes.
This winter weather has about done me in. I have gotten so traumatized that I think I need a big coat to go a few steps to get the mail!! What a shock to go outside on Tuesday to such a balmy, delicious day!! (At least I didn't have a coat on!) In the last month I gained two pounds that I am not happy a bit about! There is something about getting my exercise outside that works like magic. It is addictive to me.
"We are all born ignorant, but one must work hard to remain stupid." -- Benjamin Franklin
Spring, I hear you! I love to get my exercise outdoors also!
PT and all the gatherers; I truly feel for you with the weight thing but trust me, you are not alone!!! Yes, I am teacher/explorer and my metabolism is good, but as I age I cannot indulge (like I used to get away with cheats ) Gone are the days of every other day exercise and a little treat after dinner every night! I put on 10 pounds over this last year...see mine tends to creep up slowly until one day I cannot blame my levis for shrinking any longer!
Sugar addiction is nasty, just saying. I do not understand how I can go all day, eat exactly per swami, feel fine then after dinner have to go to extreme warfare against sweets!!! Yes, mostly compliant ones at that!
So, PT, thank you for reminding us what is important, getting our grip and knowing we are certainly able to tackle and lose those unwanted pounds!!! Go girls!!!!
Ao ISFJ Taster Rh+
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you can do it!!!
a new wardrobe is waiting!
''Just follow the book, don't look for magic fixes to get you off the hook. Do the work.'' Dr.D.'98 DNA mt/Haplo H; Y-chrom/J2(M172);ESTJ The harder you are on yourself, the easier life will be on you!
Glad to see everyone again!!! I've gained about 12 lbs. now I have an excuse...winter...well wait a minute our winter has been 60-70 degrees...oh well can't blame winter now!!!
Listen, this is what I think: I think we can't go around measuring our goodness by what we don't do, by what we deny ourselves, what we resist, and who we exclude. I think we've got to measure goodness by what we embrace, what we create, and who we include. Pere Henri (Chocolat)
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btw... my newest helpers and really good co-workers... se name: mushies freshly shnippled and in capsules....it's all about *bioavailabilities* and how our bodies can manage and accept stuffs.....amazing amazing...never would have thought about if not seen and experienced by myselve... ...and P.D. mentioned it in the encylopedia... abd I've overlooked it...yiiikes...