This presents a unique possibility.

This could be a nice fork in the road between me and her.

She has beginning stages of dementia and is so casual about illness, even her own cancer survival rate; stubborn about change.

Could taking her measurements and showing her how "unique" she is as a Teacher work BETTER than talking about our blood type? Could showing her the reason why she experienced intestinal damage in the past be the switch to turning the "light bulb" on in her head?

Her primary fears about "food" is: how expensive it is, and that she will be deprived of senseless things like wheat toast, wheat cereal, bagels, wheat-wheat-wheat and cheese. She will not eat veggies unless I make a batch for her. But she gobbles the little compliant "pot pies" I made for Thanksgiving. (typical senior citizen, I guess.)

It can't hurt to measure her and see what happens from there.

And I don't think it's wheat she's afraid to lose. She  doesn't want to lose toast, bagels, cereals, etc. If you can find compliant versions of all these (easier if she can have spelt) then she won't feel like she's missing anything, especially if you do the shopping for her.

But bear in mind that it may be impossible to get her to change anything. Some people will only make major dietary changes if a *doctor* firmly tells them to do so, and no other doctors contradict that advice. Others will ignore the doctor's advice, even if it's crystal clear that this is what they *should* do and there's no contradictory advice being given.

Well you know what they say...you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink it.  You know her best so do what you can but there's only so much you can do if she refuses to be open-minded about food and change in general (even if it's good).

Yes, yes.

My mother will not change her diet, period. She has suffered from acid reflux most of her life and is happy with her new drugs that allow her to eat anything. Even though when I told her to cut out the coffee and she did and didn't have the reflux, she won't listen to me and is back to drinking coffee . I'm not going to try to change her, she is 84 and still very active, so it is what it is. I don't have to live with her, or even close, so I might have a different attitude if I did. I don't think it would hurt anything to measure her.

Good luck!

Yes.

First things first each day.

My mother is 86, and in good health but eats things that don't match her blood type diet.  
When I talk to her about the blood type diet I can tell she doesn't believe it,perhaps it is somewhat a generational reaction?
Lin

Reading this thread makes me grateful that my mom has been very open when it comes to this diet - it's just getting her out of some of her old habits that proves to be rough but she wants to change at least and she's already made lots of improvements which is more than I can say for the rest of my family.