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marjorie
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Hi

So, I am a little frustrated to be honest. I just do not understand why I am gaining weight regardlesss of what I eat. I am going to try the supplements, but at this point, I dont know what is going on.

I am striving to get to 115 again because at least I felt ok then, but righ tnow, I feel like a big fat cow...

I really do not care about the number, but feeling good is most important to me. I just dont feel "light " and energized like I did before and I know it has to do with gaining weight.

any thoughts to trigger my body back into a good state?

I could go low carb and just eat the beef, but somehow, I feel like it backfires on me.


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marjorie,
try getting off this vicious circle

go back to when you felt better and had a more positive attitude toward yourself


some people just need a change of lifestyle and 'weltanschaung', to value things from another perspective

look within yourself, there might be your answer and path to well-being


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I personally think that stress is a big part of your current problem. You can't lose the weight while your cortisone levels are always so high. And I'm not sure how you'd go about reducing stress when there are some real stressors in your life right now.

I also wonder if eating too little at times is messing up your metabolism.


Ruth, Single Mother to 20 yo  O- Leah , 18 yo O- Hannah, and  13 yo B+ Jack


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Marjorie I feel for you!! How far above 115 are you now & when were you last there? Just wondering if perimenopausal symptoms (hormonal changes) as well as all that stress are causing problems?
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I don't blame you. I have yet to get it off. As time goes on I become less enthused. But I've never been a healthy weight, not since I was around 5 years old.

It seems some people have to gain some weight. If I was blood type O, I wouldn't be worried about weight loss at all since you get to play an active roll. I'd say eat more good stuff, exercise harder (neither work for me).
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Cortisol levels can play an important part in your weight struggle, make sure they are within normal ranges. Eating too little CAN make you gain weight. How is your fiber intake? How is your prebiotic intake? How is your exercise level? What is your body composition ( lean body weight vs. fat ), please see a professional to have this determined. If your body comp. is good, stop worrying, if your fat % is high, you have some goals to reach. If, however, your body fat% is within normal ranges you won't be doing yourself any favors by losing weight.


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marjorie,
try getting off this vicious circle

go back to when you felt better and had a more positive attitude toward yourself


some people just need a change of lifestyle and 'weltanschaung', to value things from another perspective

look within yourself, there might be your answer and path to well-being


I know that I am alone and pretty much, I think that is why I think so much about my weight.  Seriously, bottom line is NOONE cares about what happens to me but I need to accept this and just move on. My family doesn't even reach out, so I guess I am running this race alone.

Today is the 13 yr death of my dad. He was my best friend and I am sad that noone in my family even reached out to see how I was doing after knowing this is an important day for me.

I hope things get better as I move through this phd program. One thing for sure is that I def still think I need to start focusing more on the positives and all the things I do have.

I am so tired of analyzing what to eat for heavens sake.


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Quoted from grey rabbit
Cortisol levels can play an important part in your weight struggle, make sure they are within normal ranges. Eating too little CAN make you gain weight. How is your fiber intake? How is your prebiotic intake? How is your exercise level? What is your body composition ( lean body weight vs. fat ), please see a professional to have this determined. If your body comp. is good, stop worrying, if your fat % is high, you have some goals to reach. If, however, your body fat% is within normal ranges you won't be doing yourself any favors by losing weight.


Fiber is good. Ordering my probiotic tomorrow. I workout about 5 times a week. I dont even know what my weight is right now but tomorrow I am getting a scale so I can monitor it. I was better when I had one and less anxious. I wonder if I am eating too little.
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Quoted from marjorie


Fiber is good. Ordering my probiotic tomorrow. I workout about 5 times a week. I dont even know what my weight is right now but tomorrow I am getting a scale so I can monitor it. I was better when I had one and less anxious. I wonder if I am eating too little.


I am really curious about body composition. The weight number doesn't mean anything compared to it.

My body composition is fat. I don't care is the scale reads 300lbs, if my body composition would change for the better.
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I know that I am alone and pretty much...Seriously, bottom line is NO ONE cares about what happens to me but I need to accept this and just move on. My family doesn't even reach out, so I guess I am running this race alone.

Today is the 13 yr death of my dad. He was my best friend and I am sad that noone in my family even reached out to see how I was doing after knowing this is an important day for me.
So sad for you!! I do understand re missing your Dad!  Just try to remember there are people on here that care about what happens to you!!

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gut flora? andrea shared a great article...


"For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well." Psalm 139:13,14
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I know that I am alone and pretty much, I think that is why I think so much about my weight.  Seriously, bottom line is NOONE cares about what happens to me but I need to accept this and just move on. My family doesn't even reach out, so I guess I am running this race alone.


I care what happens to you. If your biological family isn't there for you, then you need to find a "new family"- people you care about who care about you, never mind if anybody is actually related or not. Do you have time for any kind of social events where you're currently living?


Ruth, Single Mother to 20 yo  O- Leah , 18 yo O- Hannah, and  13 yo B+ Jack


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I appreciate everyones thoughts.

I need to just keep looking forward and not dwelling on the past or what I dont have.

On a side note, I wonder how much grass fed beef I should eat and will this play a role in how I feel about myself/moods
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Hi Marjorie
I agree with Ruthie that we all need a "family" of some sort, even if it´s not our biological one...indeed our biological one may often not be the healthiest to be around (on an emotional level or otherwise!) as I have found...both parents gone now and I only speak with one other family member after the "fall-out"...

But fortunately I found a wonderful husband and have lovely children whom I adore ..though they are not yet at an age where they are emotional support!

Reach out to others Marjorie, there is plenty of Love out there for everyone...but it won´t necessarily come to you if you don´t seek it or aren´t open to it..

Reading between the lines, I would think that may be your main issue of concern...the number on the weighing-scales and how we perceive it is purely a symptom of how we feel inside...Love yourself, love others...and eat well! Often extra weight is our body´s way of protecting us from stresses and emotional hurts.

We all care for you. You are not on your own on this journey!


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Hi Marjorie
I agree with Ruthie that we all need a "family" of some sort, even if it´s not our biological one...indeed our biological one may often not be the healthiest to be around (on an emotional level or otherwise!) as I have found...both parents gone now and I only speak with one other family member after the "fall-out"...

But fortunately I found a wonderful husband and have lovely children whom I adore ..though they are not yet at an age where they are emotional support!

Reach out to others Marjorie, there is plenty of Love out there for everyone...but it won´t necessarily come to you if you don´t seek it or aren´t open to it..

Reading between the lines, I would think that may be your main issue of concern...the number on the weighing-scales and how we perceive it is purely a symptom of how we feel inside...Love yourself, love others...and eat well! Often extra weight is our body´s way of protecting us from stresses and emotional hurts.

We all care for you. You are not on your own on this journey!


Thank you so much for this note. And.. I am starting to feel a bit better today. I am trying to love myself I do love others and eating well.. not sure if I am balanced yet, but I am going to put forth my best effort to not be all or nothing... in terms of food. Of course, I feel best with higher protein, but I do think that I might have to eat more if I am going to keep going.

Great reframe! I just want to feel "balanced" again. I am too black or white... I cant be vegan for 1 month and then switch to BTD for another month.. it throws me off and honestly, I dont think it is good for my eating disorder.

True- this is not about the weight or what I am eating, it is about having a holistic approach again. I want this so bad and I know I can do it.

I thank God for the support of everyone here.

So, eating fruit is not a "bad" thing, right? And  no grains for me. But I can have lots of veggies so now it is time to start doing it and living again.

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No, fruit is healthy! Some individuals (like myself) have a REALLY hard time with any sugars and don't do well on too much fruit. That's not common. My daughter's SWAMI (type O Explorer) recommends that she eat 5 cups of veggies and 3 cups of fruit per day- so clearly many Os do well on lots of fruit!


Ruth, Single Mother to 20 yo  O- Leah , 18 yo O- Hannah, and  13 yo B+ Jack


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No, fruit is healthy! Some individuals (like myself) have a REALLY hard time with any sugars and don't do well on too much fruit. That's not common. My daughter's SWAMI (type O Explorer) recommends that she eat 5 cups of veggies and 3 cups of fruit per day- so clearly many Os do well on lots of fruit!


Ok, I really think I should get my swami done again. I know it recommended 2 fruits when I ran it last.

However, I think this is where balance is needed. It seems as if when I eat meat, I dont care if I eat the fruit at all. Now, when I am not eating meat, I crave the fruit and can easily eat 2 servings.

The issue is making sure I get it all in. This is always my issue. I either go one way or another... so maybe if I eat smaller portions, I will be able to have a balanced approach.

My swami says rice is good for me, but  I never eat it anymore.

hmm..
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I am really curious about body composition. The weight number doesn't mean anything compared to it


This is so true.

Good you are trying to find balance.

We care   , you have a wonderful community right here that will answer you whenever you call.


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Ruthie - quite a few fruits are too high in fructose when compared to glucose despite it being healthy

marjorie - I remember from previous conversations~, that you don't do well on quite a few fruits?!

The fact that you crave it when you don't eat enough meat, & vice versa, (as well as your mood swings) makes me think it may well be a fructose problem, as well as a blood sugar issue? Especially when you throw in your problems with rice for good measure?

May also be a problem with fructans when you consider issues with rice as well? Is it brown rice you are no good with?
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It's not unusual for a person to crave sweets (including large amounts of fruits) when they are not getting enough protein.



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Eat some more beef, it won't hurt, and yes it helps with depression. (for Hunters even more so than other meats)
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I am so grateful to have your support.

Sometimes, I feel like others just dont' get it.

V- yes, I need to limit my fruits and increase the protein. Feeling better today but once I switch to a gym that I like, I know I will feel even more enthused.

DoS- I am going to get some more beef, totally convinced that I need to eat more of it, but smaller portions and not so much.

why is it that my gums and teeth seem to get worse when I incorporate the beef but everything else feels better? and, more importantly, will this go away????
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Marjorie, what is your current dental hygiene routine?



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I am so grateful to have your support.

Sometimes, I feel like others just dont' get it.

V- yes, I need to limit my fruits and increase the protein. Feeling better today but once I switch to a gym that I like, I know I will feel even more enthused.

DoS- I am going to get some more beef, totally convinced that I need to eat more of it, but smaller portions and not so much.

why is it that my gums and teeth seem to get worse when I incorporate the beef but everything else feels better? and, more importantly, will this go away????


What you might see as worse, could be your body working out some issues with the balance in your mouth.

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I am so grateful to have your support.

Sometimes, I feel like others just dont' get it.

V- yes, I need to limit my fruits and increase the protein. Feeling better today but once I switch to a gym that I like, I know I will feel even more enthused.

DoS- I am going to get some more beef, totally convinced that I need to eat more of it, but smaller portions and not so much.

why is it that my gums and teeth seem to get worse when I incorporate the beef but everything else feels better? and, more importantly, it will this go away????


Beef is a great source of zinc, iron and other minerals. It also helps lift depression, that's why it feels great to sink your teeth into a juicy steak. And yes you are right a small portion is all you need just 3-5 oz.


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