My husband and I were envited out to dinner last night, and before we came my friend asked me what things I couldn't eat. She was making pasta with mushroom sauce, so I told her what mushrooms were okay for me, but that I couldn't have shitake mushrooms. She said no problem, but after we ate she told me that her nice neighbor from China gave her a whole bunch of mushrooms that she had added to the sauce, and it sounded like they were shitake. Well, what could I do? I had already eaten them. I didn't say anything to her, because it was too late, and I love her too much to sound so picky.
I sure does make it hard to have dinner with friends. I already barely eat out at restaurants.
One thing I do sometimes is bring a survival kit, but some people are insulted by it.
Don, that's a great article. Thanks for sharing it. As for me, I socialize with all kinds of people. I don't let their comments bother me. Even in restaurants, I take the attitude that I'm paying for the meal & have the right to alter the food offered according to my personal preference. I don't make comments about my choices...I just order & eat.
Good ariticle, Don. Raises a lot of issues that a lot of us face everyday. I had lunch out today with a friend from grammar school that I see a couple of times a year. We were in Brownies together!!! I was telling her that I've been on the BTD for about 10 years now and that I just feel better eating that way. She doesn't even like to eat vegetables. I had a salad with grilled chicken, nuts, dried cranberries and feta (not too bad except that sometimes the cranberries have some avoids) and she had some kind of lobster and cheese dip with pieces of a baguette. We talked a little about it but we've known each other long enough that neither of us was judgmental. Jane
You know, if it's just an occasional thing and you're not actually allergic to the foods, it might be worth it to eat it, enjoy it, and risk feeling a little sluggish the next day. We carry bottles of Deflect in our van for times like that.
Our suggestions: either eat a good snack before you go so you don't starve if you really can't eat it, or take your own food, but then it's true that you run the risk of offending easily-offended people.
ISTJ, BTD since 5/05. Battling chronic Lyme disease since ~1985.
"Everything is permissible for me, but not everything is beneficial..." I Corinthians 6:12
Good artical Don, thanx. When invited out I usually ask what I can bring, and then bring something type O and just add it to the meal so everyone can partake, and I can get what I need. If they say not to bring anything I pray then just go and enjoy myself. I only share my diet when people ask me what I'm doing. I know that when people push their ideas on me, and just talk constantly talk about nothing else I don't like it. So I try to be sensitive about my beliefs.
I do judge people at the grocery store, and at resaurants, and never really thought about it until I read that article, so I'm going to have to catch myself in the future. I mostly have compasion for people, because I've been where they are, and just wish I could help them.