I had an exciting dinner planned for tonight, but both of the kids were invited out to basketball watching parties. It was after 8:00 when I got home from swimming laps, so I decided to postpone my plans and fix something simple for my husband and myself.

I had eaten carrots and almond butter before I swam, so I didn't need a huge meal. I had a hamburger patty and steamed broccoli dipped in olive oil.

My husband wanted soup and salad. He likes several soups that I buy at the health food store: lentil, mushroom, and French onion to name three. But his favorite soups are broccoli & cheese and clam chowder by Campbell's. Both, of course, are filled with avoids.

I try to bump my husband in the direction of the BTD, without forcing him to be as compliant as I am. When he wants one of the Campbell's soups, I make them with soy milk. The first time I did it I held my breath, wondering if he would notice the difference. He didn't. Now I always make cream soups with soy milk.

It's just a little thing - but it adds some beneficials to what could have been a mostly avoid meal.